[beth911]

Everyone thinks from the sound of things that J is using me and cheating on me.
And I want to quit talking to that other guy but he's really nice and I don't want to hurt him. And his girlfriend of 7 months just broke up with him. I know he would be better than J, but I don't care I want J and that's that.
Do you think he would be cheating on me?

[beth911]

And what should I do about this other person? Just ignore him? Should I stop and leave it at that? Should I tell J?

[Clough]

Why do you want J?

[beth911]

I don't know. I just do. I love him that's why. I can't leave him. Something won't let me. I can'r help it.

[Clough]

Originally Posted by Clough
Why do you want J?

I don't know. I just do. I love him that's why. I can't leave him. Something won't let me. I can'r help it.

When is the last time that you actually got to do anything with him in person?

[beth911]

Well, he's not aloud to talk to me so like May.
But when I get my license I'll see him more.
But he was being a little nicer today.
But he still doesn't treat me like I want to be treated. I don't get why.

[beth911]

I don't know if its from all this or what... but I can't even feel tired anymore or anything and I almost passed out at school

[Clough]

Well, he's not aloud to talk to me so like May.
But when I get my lisence i'll see him more.
But he was being a little nicer today.
But he still doesn't treat me like i wanna be treated. I don't get why.

If he's not allowed to speak with you, then how do you know that you will get to see him more once you get your license?

[beth911]

We have it planned out, don't worry. The only way for it to work is that I drive over their and meet him somewhere.
I just wonder why he can't tell his mom he's going to a friedns and have his friend... never mind I forgot I live a half hr away

[Clough]

Originally Posted by beth911
We have it planned out, don't worry. The only way for it to work is that I drive over their and meet him somewhere.
I just wonder why he can't tell his mom he's going to a friedns and have his friend... never mind I forgot I live a half hr away

If he lied to his mom, and she found out, then he would likely get into trouble. You wouldn't want that to happen, would you? Do you know why he isn't allowed to speak with you?

[beth911]

Yeah I know why. He's 18 now though, can she really stop him? She said it was just for the summer but I don't know. I still never called and he says its best if I don't. And I doubt his parents would find out.but I can't get tired and I've been up all night and have to wak eup in a couple hours.

[Clough]

If you know why he isn't allowed to speak to you, would you mind sharing that here, please?

[beth911]

Because his mom knows we had sex.

[Clough]

Originally Posted by beth911
We have it planned out, don't worry. The only way for it to work is that I drive over their and meet him somewhere.
I just wonder why he can't tell his mom he's going to a friedns and have his friend... never mind I forgot I live a half hr away

Originally Posted by Clough
If he lied to his mom, and she found out, then he would likely get into trouble. You wouldn't want that to happen, would you? Do you know why he isn't allowed to speak with you?

Originally Posted by beth911
Yeah I know why. He's 18 now though, can she really stop him? She said it was just for the summer but I don't know. I still never called and he says its best if I don't. And I doubt his parents would find out.but I can't get tired and I've been up all night and have to wak eup in a couple hours.

Originally Posted by Clough
If you know why he isn't allowed to speak to you, would you mind sharing that here, please?

Because his mom knows we had sex.

That does say a lot there, Beth. Is the reason that you are so obsessed with this guy is because you had sex with him? I mean, there are better and also mentally healthier reasons to become so attached to someone that you would give your all to be with them other than because you had sex with them.

[beth911]

I don't know.. its just I've never known no one and spent so much time with anyone like I have him... 2 years. Ive never loved someone like I love him, and no one has ever cared about me other than family.

[Clough]

idk.. its just ive never known no one and spent so much time with anyone like i have him.... 2 years. Ive never loved someone like i love him, and no one has ever cared about me other than family.

Not everyone is exactly the person that is the right one to be with another person permanently. I dated quite a few women before I met the one that I married. Sometimes, I would have multiple girlfriends at the same time. Although, I wouldn't date them on the same night, of course! :) This happened over a period of about five years.

What do you think of that? Are you willing to spend some time with other guys in order to "shop around" a bit? That would seem to be the healthy and normal thing to do for most people, especially at your age.

[Clough]

Ive never loved someone like i love him, and no one has ever cared about me other than family.

Then, I take it that he is the first one whom you think has loved you and that there can be no other. Is this correct?

[beth911]

That's not all of it though, I mean its him. Something just... I believe if you don't give up and try hard enough you can have what you want.

[beth911]

He just said that he tries to treat me better but that he just cant.
Im confused because, how do I know he cares?

[Clough]

That's not all of it though, I mean its him. Something just... I believe if you don't give up and try hard enough you can have what you want.

Something just what?

Originally Posted by beth911
I believe if you don't give up and try hard enough you can have what you want.

It would be nice if the above were true. But, unfortunately, it's not.
Sometimes you just have to hang things up and move on. That's the way life is...

Almost every girlfriend that I ever had, I still love...

But, I moved on...