If you get married, will she be willing to stay with you even when you get sick or lose your job? And if you married her would you be willing to stay even if she got sick and lost her job? How does she react now when you are sick? How does she react when you don't have any money or when you are in between jobs? Do you respect each other? Or do you think you are better than she is and vice versa? Do you respect each other as equals? Does she encourage and support you or does she prefer to keep you down? Do you see each other as equals.
Some people want proof of love by how much money they spend on you. So look into your value system. Do you have similar values?
Some people like to keep the other person down by criticizing and by by withholding affection and knowledge, etc?
Hope I've given you a place to start.
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