[Devistated]

This is kind of a crazy situation, I will probably get bashed for.

I had been with my ex for 1 year. We had started having problems when I moved in 5 months after we started going out. It was kind of a rebound relationship because I was going through a divorce at the time. He came to me like my knight in shining armor and I really believed in him. Anyway, we broke up this past Oct. and I continued staying in the house as a roommate with benefits.(I know that's bad). Well He told me he wasn't seeing anyone. I found out otherwise and he is denying till he dies. I actually became friends with the woman and she told me all the dirty details. She said she was trying to get him to make me move out during the whole 2.5 weeks they were together. He tried to but ended up asking me to stay so I did. She said they broke up because he wasn't sexually satisfying for her and it was too weird having me in his house. I haven't been able to handle the fact that he possibly started pushing me out of the house for another women. Well that relationship ended and he started being better to me. He didn't take me back, but he was thinking about it. But the more stuff I found out about this other girl and his constant lying about it the more hurt and angry I became and I would throw it up to his face. So I recently found out about him talking to another girl which he also denied. I finally moved out New Years Eve! It was harder than leaving my husband. We both decided that I had to go so that he could miss me. Since I left he has been calling me and checking on me. We even went skating together lastnight. I want him to take me back and he said his plan is to have me back. But I'm not sure if it would be the best thing. We have always had great sex and can't walk by each other without touching. That's the hard part. We do love each other but things are just nuts. He is so gorgeous and I still love him so much. But I don't know if I can trust him. I'm worried he is dating someone else already. Why should I care? Why does he lie so much if we are not together? I'm a 31 year old woman and I should have more of a clue, but I'm constantly blinded by love. Please give me advice.

[NeedKarma]

Looks like you picked a loser who can't commit to one person. You need to be independent on your own before jumping into love again. Don't let people jerk you around.

[talaniman]

Well you needed someone to love you after a divorce, and took what looked good, ( Knight in shining armor?? What a fairy tale ) and now you know it ain't so good. Move out, and support yourself, and heal from this looking for love stuff. Get your act together and love yourself, or you will always be blind in love, and fall for anything that looks good. 5 months, are you kidding me?? You pinned your happiness on a stranger, and now you know better. Get out, and move on.

[Devistated]

I already moved out. He was no stranger. We worked together in the fire dept. Is it possible that he could really love me?