[lexi411]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 15 months now and we r in love but he's 17 and I'm 14 we're only 3 years and 3 months apart but he is being harassed by people in his grade so he wants to know is it legal for us to date?:confused:

[Fr_Chuck]

DATE, yes, ( if your parents are stupid enough to have let a 13 year old at the time you started) and now 14 date.

If you have any sexual contract, that is where it crosses the line to illegal and your boyfriend can end up in a cell somewhere

[Gernald]

Yea it's legal and depending where you are you can er... do it as long as he's not 4 years older, or if he's over 18 and your under 18. Check the laws for your state, to find out more.
But the real thing is you can date, and you shouldn't be doing it anyway so you shouldn't have a problem.

[Fr_Chuck]

Sorry I don't know anywhere that a 14 year old can give consent, at least in the US.

[ScottGem]

Nowhere is it illegal for any age group to simply date. The problem comes if you engage in any level of sexual activity. If you have already engaged on sex, he can wind up in jail. If you haven't, and have no intention ofengaging in sex, then you are fine. You both are too young to engage in sexual intercourse.

Where are your parents in all this? What are his friends getting on him about?

[lexi411]

Yes you guys have helped a lot thank you now I can prove to him that those people are just immature jerks and my mother knows that we are dating she doesn't really care as long as I don't get pregnant my dads dead so it doesn't really matter there but thank you guys so much!

[Fr_Chuck]

But remember it is not getting pregnant, it is having any type of sexual contract at 14. So remember at 14, it is hand holder and talking.

[ScottGem]

There is no 100% method of birth control. So if you are engaging in sexual intercourse you are risking pregnancy and he is risking jail.

I'm sorry about your father and having a mother who cares so little about you. Your situation makes me believe that your relationship is more about replacing the affection your parents don't provide than real love for this guy who is using you. I suspect he is using the peer pressure thing to break up with you. How long have you been sexually active?

[Simple Asian]

uhm.. as far as dating goes ? No... you guys have no problem..

but if sex in it then... yeah... he going to be in the cell soon...

so even if you likes him so much and want to have sex.. it OK.. b.c we all human and we have emotion that we can't resis sometime..

but protection and birth control... 14 is too young to have that kind of resposibility... ^^

[lexi411]

My mom doesn't care that we're dating she does however care if we have sex she has A lot of talks with me about it a couple of times she even had me take a pregnancy test my boyfriend isn't usuing me because he could have all kinds of girls not to mention he was never raised that way he was the one who wanted to take things slow and I have had that responsibility I am the godmother of my nephew when my sister walked out on him when he was a baby I was the one who took care of him for three years I know what its like and we talk more then we kiss the biggest thing though is he graduates this year. But still I know you guys think this is foolish but I know that he would never use me because there is nothing to use and 2nd we're not breaking up till he has to go college (stress reasons) thanks for the info

[Alinchik98]

If you love him and he loves you its you chose you now

[ScottGem]

That certainly makes me feel better. The way you had previously stated it, it really sounded like your mom didn't care that much about you.