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Should we get back together or is he just a good salesman?
Met a great guy while separated. He was recently divorced. Fell madly in love. We both agreed that it was the kind of thing people dream about. It was very quick, very intense. For 10 months we were head over heels. He then became afraid. Told me he needed time and space. He said he was afraid to go any further because1. I was still married. Would I change my mind? 2. He was so recently divorced would he regret jumping back in so soon? 3. His ex cheated on him and he was afraid of getting hurt again. I had a VERY hard time letting go and said and did stupid things. (ladies, walk away with dignity, my advice) Well, after 2 months , the girlfriend that introduced us calls me to say that he and she had become really close friends and would like to date. My world crashed. They were dating for about 9 months. He would text, e-mail and call me about once a month. I was devastated each time. It's been 1 1/2 years now. They have been done a couple of months. (I hear all of this through the grapevine, we still have the same friends) He called me , we started to talk. Now that they are over, I responded to him. He says that what they had was just a crazy, usually with a group of people kind of thing . An out of character fling for him. I still love him. I've dated a lot this past year and have not found anyone like him. He wants to try again. Slowly, at my pace. He thinks we had exactly what he really wants. He says that he doesn't know if it was a mistake but that maybe we had to go through this to see how much we really meant to each other. And that if it is true love it will survive this. I'm afraid to let my love him again. I'm afraid I will get hurt again. I have said all of this to him. Everything. Also my friends and family would be upset because I was so upsetby the break up and his relationship with my supposed good friend whom I have never talked to again. Do you think we have a chance or is he just a good salesman?
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