[beth911]

HE e-mailed me back and said that I never did enough for him... so I listed everything I did and everything he did and how I treated him and how he treated me

[Clough]

HE e-mailed me back and said that i never did enough for him... so i listed everything I did and everything he did and how i treated him and how he treated me

So, now the two of you are keeping score. That's like playing a game. Keeping score in relationships is something that kids might do, but not mature individuals. This gives further credence to the fact that a lot of growing up needs to happen.

[beth911]

Like my mom said... "hes playing games"

[Clough]

Originally Posted by beth911
HE e-mailed me back and said that I never did enough for him... so I listed everything I did and everything he did and how I treated him and how he treated me

Originally Posted by Clough
So, now the two of you are keeping score. That's like playing a game. Keeping score in relationships is something that kids might do, but not mature individuals. This gives further credence to the fact that a lot of growing up needs to happen.

Like my mom said... "hes playing games"

So, if indeed he is playing games, then you do have a choice as to whether to play or not to play. In those kinds of games, a mature person would choose not to play.

[beth911]

He's obviously immayure to start it, right? So why am I immature according to him just for going long with it... I mean look at how he is acting too. But he thinks he's so perfect. And if I was more mature, he would find another reason to hate me. He would call me fat and hate me because I'm not like him. I'm at average weight and I weigh 5 lbs more than him. Sorry about my typos. I'm sure thiers a lot.

[Clough]

he's obviously immayure to start it, right? So why am I immature according to him just for going long with it... I mean look at how he is acting too. But he thinks he's so perfect. And if I was more mature, he would find another reason to hate me. He would call me fat and hate me because I'm not like him. I'm at average weight and I weigh 5 lbs more than him. Sorry about my typos. I'm sure thiers a lot.

In your statement below, is this in reference to me or your boyfriend?

Originally Posted by beth911
So why am I immature according to him just for going long with it...

[beth911]

He thinks I'm being immature, but he starts the games... I would be more than happy with out them

[Wondergirl]

Then don't play them.

Just wish him well in his exciting new plan.

And don't bring up past and present bad things or even good things. The shorter and sweeter you are (without sarcasm), the nicer and more mature you appear to be. "J, I am so happy that you have made this decision. You will learn all sorts of new stuff, meet new people, and see the world! I envy you!"

[ISneezeFunny]

Guy sounds like a 5th grade girl. No offense to 5th grade girls, but you guys know what you do.

[beth911]

He just sent an e-mail saying that the majority reasons why he things I am immature is that I cry when my pets die

[beth911]

He said I'm never their when he needs someone. Like how his cousin has cancer... he never told me his cousin has cancer.

[Wondergirl]

Just be nice and remind him that females cry easily. They aren't tough like males are. Say, "Oh, J, I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin! I wish you would have told me!"

Remember, be pleasant, don't play games, don't sass back at him, just be nice, keep it short and friendly. That will drive him nuts and make him realize you are changing for the better. It will keep him interested. Of course, if you screw up...

[beth911]

If I screw up, what?
He seems really upset that I talked to that 1 girl.

[beth911]

I don't think he's going to talk to me. I really don't. He doesn't want anything to do with me.

[Wondergirl]

Don't contact him. Wait. Be patient.

[beth911]

Do you think he will come to me though? Do you think he will just forget about me?He keeps saying how glad he is to leave me and everything.

Also, I know I shouldn't but I think I'm going to reset the password on his skype and get into it and find out who else he has on their. I also think that he may have blocked me but I don't know.

[beth911]

Wow, he really must be hiding a lot. I know he has other e-mail adresses I don't know about. I can figure out his password to just about anything but not skype and I don't know what e-mail address he has that for.

[Wondergirl]

Beth, stop it!! That is being the worst kind of girlfriend! He doesn't deserve that kind of treatment.

[Clough]

What is it about your relationship with this boy that makes you feel good, Beth?

[beth911]

Beth, stop it!!! That is being the worst kind of gf! He doesn't deserve that kind of treatment.

What about how he treats me? He thinkd I don't do anything for him but I did a lot.