[Besstefan]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months, and we live together. I am going through a divorce with my ex husband. I can't let this guy go, he's awesome with my 2 kids, and he's the only one that is there for me whenever I didn't have support from my family and friends. I used to work for the Red Cross, meaning I travelled a lot. I quit my job for him, so I can be at the same country always. Now I took a new course that will get me a great job. But now he is saying, he doesn't see the relationship working and wants out. Main reason for it, is because I've always had a problem with his over friendly relationship with his ex wife. He's got such a big heart, and I know that they are only friends, but it still hurts when they keep in touch. I tried everything, from saying give me another chance to prove myself, and to I'm OK with your relationship with the ex wife... or at least try my best to be. It needs time, and he won't even give me that.

We live together, and the kids are still with the ex. I will be able to sort my life out once I get my diploma, and a great job. But it would be pointless to live a great life without the man I love. So please... I am getting desperate. I am living on my own now in his house, since he is travelling. He will be back on Monday afternoon. I am the type that wants to talk things through, he is the type that doesn't even want to discuss anything and shuts everything and everyone out. I really need help to fix our relationship. Letting him go isn't one of the options. I am hopeful and thinking positive that it'll work out... just needs a bit of time and subtle persuasion... maybe not even to talk things through, I just got to act fast!

Please... I need all the help I can get... effective help to fix this problem I am having, it makes my heart so heavy to think he is drifting away from me. I might only be here for two more weeks,till I get a job.

[talaniman]

It sounds like his mind is made up, and you can't change how he feels, no matter how bad you want to. You will come to accept his choice though, because you have to. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.