[WAZE]

I just need tot know how to tell mey dad that I'm having sex, he is very old fashion and might not understand so my approach is everything.

[ISneezeFunny]

Well, to be honest, I haven't even told my parents I've had sex.

... hell, my parents don't know that I've held hands with girls...

Is it something you really need to tell your dad? If that's the case, then try to hang out with your dad, out at dinner, or something you two really enjoy doing together. My dad and I hang out regularly and we talk about our lives (I just don't tell him about my love life). I feel like that's probably the best time to tell him. He may be upset/not understanding, but in the long run, I feel that he'll respect you for telling him.

[LostInHisEyez]

Well how old are you? If you're under 16, then don't tell them yet. Over 16 tell them that you made your decision and you stand by it.

[peggyhill]

I would just tell him that you need to have a serious conversation with him. Pick a time when it's just you two and he isn't busy or upset about something else. Just come out and say it. Tell him that you have something to tell him and you are worried about what he is going to think. Tell him that you love him and that you want him to approve of you. Then, just come out and say it. It's not going to be an easy conversation. I can't predict how your dad will react. I think most fathers, old-fashioned or not, freak out to a certain extent when they learn that their "little girl" is sexually active. Hopefully, he will be nice to you about the whole thing. One thing that is for sure, he will appreciate that you were honest and mature by telling him the way you did.
Make sure you are getting your annual exams if you're sexually active too. It's so important. Good luck to you! I hope all goes well.

[leeleee]

I just need tot kno how to tell mey dad that I'm having sex, he is very old fashion and might not understand so my approach is everything.

OK I wasn't sure how to use this site so I'm sorry that I put my answer in the wrong place. Most of us as males go through this at this time. I would just let it ride for now. Because telling them would probably cause trouble. Now if you've never been dishonest with your parents and its bothering you then get them both together in the same place and tell them in the most respectful way. Most importantly. If you plan on doing this again please be careful ,use protection Tell your parents. At your age sex can cause bigtime problems. Focus on your future. You'll have plenty of time for sex. Peace and blessings.

[talaniman]

I had the ""talk at 12 with my father, and never really told him anything about my personal life after that. I have read your other thread with the virgin, is there more to your history than that? How is the relationship with your father, and mother?

[Fr_Chuck]

My boys and I were always open, we could and did talk about any and everything. So ifyou have a good communication with your dad just do so.

[13sldr]

Are you sure you want to tell your father?

Some dads can get pretty ticked when it comes to their little girls.

[WAZE]

are you sure you want to tell your father?

some dads can get pretty ticked when it comes to their little girls.

I'm a dude though son

[Wondergirl]

Why would you tell him? My father knew I had sex only when I presented him with two grandchildren. Otherwise, he maybe didn't think about it or care.

[ScottGem]

Its nice you want to be open with your father, but since this was posted in the Teens forum that would indicate you are underage. As I've said before, no one should be having sexual intercourse until they are physically, emotionally and financially ready to have a child.

[mjl]

Honestly, if wondergirl is right that you are only 14 years old I think you should have a chat with your dad. Maybe your dad will help you understand that you are too young for sex because you are not ready for the consequenses of it. Have you thought of becoming a dad yourself... like really thought about it? Have you thought of std's? If you think that having sex at 14 is OK then I do think you need some education from your dad.