[enjay22]

So, I was with my boyfriend for about 9 months.
The best times of our lives. I mean, everything was perfect. He is my first real true "love" and I am his.

Everything was going great until his friends started putting bad thoughts about me. You would think he would be so secure of our relationship after 9 months that he wouldn't listen to them. Only, being in high school, I'm guessing is a lot more added "drama" then the real deal.

After all of the arguing about the spread rumors by his pals, we called it quits. But, it wasn't really over. It was just over in the eyes of people at school. We remained "together" at night, and on weekends, but at school, we played it cool, like nothing happened.

Obviously, my first mistake. This went on for MONTHS. And into the summer. We decided that we would wait till we graduated HS and would both be attending college in the fall to let our relationship continue. He still said he loves me, and I am certain I am still with him.

About a month ago, this girl decided to start flirting and all that stuff with him. Since, he was "single" he decided to go on a date. Well.. that escaladed from there...
They started dating.. and after 2 weeks later they entered the "boyfriend & girlfriend status."

Im SO confused. What about me? He told me a few weeks ago, we'd be together soon.. now he is in a relationship with a girl he claims is PERFECT. He says he " feels the same way with her as he did with me." So, of course on myspace.. its all lovey &dovey kissing pictures and such. He says he can start seeing himsef falling in love with her.

But.. I STILL love him. && I know he still cares about me too.
We stopped talking, and I don't think we are "friends" anymore. I miss him secretly, but I don't show it to his face. But believe me, he knows.

What do I do?
Do I stay quiet? Do I fight for him? Or.. just give up on the idea were going to be together after high school. Please. I need ADVICE.

[Rockstar714]

Guys usually don't lie about their feelings, so he probably really feels for this girl, and he's openly showing it.

Fighting for him only creates more drama and makes things worse. By calling him and showing him that you NEED him will push him further away. If its meant to be, he'll figure it out.

If you stay quiet and just focus on other things, chances are if you two are going to be together That's when he'll see it because he'll see that you are mature enough to handle the situation and that you're not going to be immature and create a huge mess.

[s_cianci]

I'd give up on this one, he sounds much too wishy-washy to be considered viable relationship material.

[talaniman]

Oh heck NO, What kind of guy does that?? He is a perfect jerk to ignore his word and lord it in your face. You should be mad as hell at the lack of respect, and ready to forget him forever. You do think you deserve better treatment don't you? ACT LIKE IT!!

[oneguyinohio]

I sure as heck would not be the girl that he hides from his friends! If he is so lame and ridiculous as that, then I would believe that he thinks you are not good enough for him or his friends.

If he was in love with you, he would be proud to have you with him anywhere, and let the whole world see you together.

Don't wait for him to get over his popularity issues that he thinks are more important.

[George_1950]

I, too, would no longer contact Romeo; and start smiling elsewhere, when you are ready for it. Relax as much as possible and enjoy this time of your life; be with people you like and trust.

[jessi_pooh]

I think that he is a douchebag who doesn't really know what he wants.
If he really and TRULY cared about you... he would be with you.

There are plenty of other fishies in the sea and if you´re going to settle for just this one and focus all your heart on this being ¨meant to be¨ then I think you´re just going to end up getting hurt again.

No girl deserves a guy who does this to her and
Trust me honey, You deserver the best!

Wish them the best of luck (as much as it hurts... and as much as they'll need it)
Cross your fingers and take chances! Who knows...