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mylovec · Dec 14, 2007, 04:23 AM

I don't have an interest in having sex with my spouse, even though he does everything on me, like kissing sucking, etc, I enjoy it so much and whenever he touches me I feel unhappy, and he is the nicest man any woman can ask for, the hardest aprt is I don't allow him to kiss me anymore and it just happened and I don't plan for it, whenever I make myself ready for him, the interest goes away whe he touches me, what should I do?

faye_arv · Dec 14, 2007, 05:35 AM

Originally Posted by mylovec

I dont have an interest in having sex with my spouse, even though he does everything on me, like kissing sucking, etc, i enjoy it so much and whenever he touches me i feel unhappy, and he is the nicest man any woman can ask for, the hardest aprt is i dont allow him to kiss me anymore and it just hapened and i dont plan for it, whenever i make myself ready for him, the interest goes away whe he touches me, what should i do?

Are you having problems with your spouse, is there tension that gets in the way of your love making? How are you feeling in general. Are you sad, maybe depressed or is it just your spouse that makes you uninterested? My opinion is that 1. either you have some form of depression, 2. you have problems with your spouse and they are getting in the way, 3. you're not in love anymore or bored with the routine, 4. or it could be hormonal if you don't want sex in general.

Whatever it is, maybe you should talk to your spouse, tell him/her how you feel. You can work it out but it's not always easy if you do it on your own. With patience and love everything is possible.

talaniman · Dec 14, 2007, 08:49 AM

You have a lot of nerve, in my opinion. Your problem can be easily solved by not cheating, on focusing on your marriage.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...us-154104.html

Or is this why your cheating?

faye_arv · Dec 14, 2007, 09:26 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

You have a lot of nerve, in my opinion. Your problem can be easily solved by not cheating, on focusing on your marriage.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...us-154104.html

Or is this why your cheating?

I think you're getting a bit ahead of yourself here. She never said that she is cheating on him or that she cheated. She said that even though she wants to be sexually aroused by him, she just isn't! Most likely she should see a doctor not get abused or made to feel guilty for feeling this way!

N0help4u · Dec 14, 2007, 09:53 AM

Faye
In the link talaiman posted
She didn't say she wasn't aroused she just said they held back. She also asked why is HE pulling back. Which in any case she says they were naked together and hugging and kissing so my guess is that COULD be enough for her to be obsessing over him and distracted from her affection for her husband.

450donn · Dec 14, 2007, 10:14 AM

See a doctor as soon as possible to rule out a medical condition. How old are you? As people age their hormone levels change, causing a lowering in sexual desires.

talaniman · Dec 14, 2007, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by 450donn

See a doctor as soon as possible to rule out a medical condition. How old are you? As people age their hormone levels change, causing a lowering in sexual desires.

I guess her cheating has nothing to do with it?

Tuscany · Dec 14, 2007, 10:48 AM

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...us-154104.html

Could it be because when you are with him you feel guilty for cheating on him.

Thanks for the link T

mylovec · Dec 14, 2007, 11:43 PM

It does nothing to do with cheating, believe you me, I am done with it, even before, that is the feeling I had and still have, I might confess here, maybe it was one of the things that drove with the other married man, and not any more, the thing I am asking here is what's wrong with me? I am not sexually attracted to him anymore,

talaniman · Dec 15, 2007, 07:49 AM

A lot more backgound of you, and the relationship is needed. As much as you care to share.

faye_arv · Dec 15, 2007, 08:52 AM

I take it back, I hadn't read the other post! She obviously isn't interested in her husband because she's bored or just doesn't care anymore and the other guy seemed more interesting. It's easy to happen in a long term relationship. When it does happen YOU have to find new ways to make sex interesting. Instead of that she decided to have a fling with a co-worker. Not a good idea girlfriend! 1st. If he's using you or things don't work out, work is going to become a bit hard to go to... the atmosphere is going to get heavier and heavier. 2nd. You're not doing any good to your marriage. Your husband can sense the change.

simoneaugie · Dec 15, 2007, 05:57 PM

Find common interests other than sex. You need to wrap your mind around, "this is the guy."