[wanting2change]

Here's the situation... ive been with my boyfriend for over a yr and I've lied to him many times, and evry time he has found out, I've said I would change every time, and I really meant it but somehow I end up lying again... most times for no good reason, just because I'm scared about what he's going to say or if he's going to judge me or ashamed of the thing I did.. and it hurts him, but he takes me back.
This time, he won't take me back even though I'm really serious about not lying, I've gotten rid of my baggage and I'm trying to convince him that I can really do it this time.
I'm really in love with my boyfriend and I really need him in my life. He has given me an altimatum, find a way to convince him I'm not going to lie to him again by 12midnite 2nite(without using words or txt) or leave him alone 4evr... and so far I feel like I'm failing.
I'm so desperate I've joined this site to get help on what I should do


How can I convince my boyfriend with ACTION and not words that I won't lie to him anymore by 12 midnite if I can't be face to face with him at the time?

[nkychic]

Trust is a valuable thing and you've broken this many times with him. Honestly, I don't see you being able to prove anything by midnight. For a year all you have showed him is that you are deceitful and that you can't be trusted, what makes you think you can turn that around in a few hours?? If he breaks up with you, then continue to work to get him back. Be honest with him (even if you are just friends). If you really want this guy then spend your time apart working on yourself. Your confidence is obviously low because you seem ashamed of who you are and the actions you take. Maybe you need this breakup. Can you honestly say that you love yourself? I know you can't. If you don't love yourself than you'll never feel deserving of love from another. If you don't feel you deserve than you won't allow it. Work on you baby girl. Get yourself together, get your life together. Then maybe you can show him that you are a changed person. Good luck and feel free to message me if you ever want to talk!!

<3 Leslie

[talaniman]

Trust takes time, and he knows you can't produce, so its his way of saying adios! Sorry, but the good part is you will have time to change, if you want to.