What should I do?

Baby_Gurl0093 · Dec 7, 2007, 04:39 AM

Okay first of all this question has nothing to do with me its for my friend. See he's been going out with his girlfriend for a little over a year now and he seems happy but one day he told me that he thought he liked this other girl. I feel bad for him because he doesn't know what to do and I want to help him as much as possible. I tried telling him to break up with her a sort out his emotions but he doesn't want to do that before the holidays and her birthday. Tell me how can I help him through this.

simoneaugie · Dec 7, 2007, 04:45 AM

Encourage him to be honest with her. He may wait until after the holidays and her birthday, maybe he'll be more clear then. Honesty is priceless as long as it is tactful and caring.

talaniman · Dec 7, 2007, 09:32 AM

How old is your friend?

Baby_Gurl0093 · Dec 7, 2007, 01:03 PM

Hes 15 and today after school I was talking to him on the phone and he was really upset about it and he's so confused and hurt. I can't take it anymore and I tried telling himto be honest but he just broke down crying and he's really starting to like this girl. He says he can't keep a relationship and he's had bad luck and I think he's staying with his current girlfriend because he thinks he doesn't have a chance with anyone else and he feel he can't hold onto a relationship. No matter how many times I tell him he's wrong he keeps getting more upset and now its making me really sad... help...

simoneaugie · Dec 7, 2007, 08:08 PM

He will have to do the painful deed himself. Whether it's to break up, or stay in his current relationship and like the other girl. You can share his pain. You can not fix it for him. You are empathic and a good friend. What you have, that he doesn't is perspective. Keep in mind that you can be most helpful if you listen and help him see all sides of the situation until he is ready to take that step.

talaniman · Dec 8, 2007, 07:45 AM

As his friend you have to be there , but its up to him to take the right actions. If he doesn't you may have to give him the tough love he needs to man up and do what he has to do. First tough as him what he wants from this situation.

Baby_Gurl0093 · Dec 10, 2007, 06:38 PM

Well here's an up date he broke it off with his girlfriend and now he's focusing on his feelings I hope he can be happy soon but is there anything I can do to help him with that?