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Wishing4dabest · Dec 6, 2007, 12:05 PM

Ok I got saved and evrything and I have my ex boyfriend and I really want to have sex with him but on the other hand I want to wait until I'm married. But sometimes I get so horny and don't know what to do about it. Please tell me should I wait?:confused:

kp2171 · Dec 6, 2007, 12:08 PM

Please tell me the boy you are talking about isn't this boy?

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kp2171 · Dec 6, 2007, 12:09 PM

Should you have sex with the ex?

Probably not.

450donn · Dec 6, 2007, 01:55 PM

GOD says that sex before marriage is a sin. If you are thinking about sex all the time, find something else to do with your time. Like reading. In fact, since you claimed to be saved, do a bible study on the topic of sex and see what GOD has to say about it.

jillianleab · Dec 6, 2007, 02:05 PM

You don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing you're young. Regardless, you should not lose your virginity to someone you are not in a stable, committed, adult relationship with and you certainly should not do it just because you are horny.

If you have been saved and part of you wants to wait until you are married, think about how you might feel if you have sex before then - will you feel guilty? Disappointed in yourself? Like you let down someone bigger than you?

The decision to become sexually active is not one that should be taken lightly. Sex changes you as a person, it changes your relationship and it opens you up to a world of change if you get pregnant or contract an STD. It's probably best for you to wait.

Shorty87 · Dec 6, 2007, 02:30 PM

If you are asking if you are ready... you aren't ready. I'm waiting until I'm married.

Synnen · Dec 6, 2007, 07:10 PM

How old are you?

Suelle383 · Dec 6, 2007, 07:43 PM

If you're not sure, then you're not ready. Don't do it until you're sure you're ready and don't do it with someone you're not in a serious committed relationship. If you do it with the wrong person or at the wrong time, you'll only wind up regretting it. You waited this long. You can wait longer until you're sure you're ready.

Choux · Dec 7, 2007, 12:47 PM

HOw old are you?

talaniman · Dec 8, 2007, 10:16 AM

You should wait. You don't sound as if your ready.

s_cianci · Dec 8, 2007, 10:18 AM

Wait. Your finger will do until you're married.

jrebel7 · Dec 9, 2007, 01:41 AM

Originally Posted by Wishing4dabest

Ok i got saved and evrything and i have my ex boyfriend and i really want to have sex with him but on the other hand i want to wait until im married. But sometimes i get soo horny and don,t know what to do about it. Please tell me should i wait?:confused:

Honoring your commitment you made to the Lord is not an easy task in any arena of life. I know that being a virgin when you marry these days, is almost unheard of. I can tell you from my experience that being a virgin at the alter when I married was important to me. My husband respected me for it even though he tried to convince me to do otherwise when we were on dates!! Because I had not been with anyone, even though I am a very sexual person, there were times, I would look at my wedding rings and wonder why it was OK now but not the day before. I was wildly passionate one night and shy the next. I felt conflicted. But I believe in my heart that for me, if I had been with someone before my husband, it would have been easy to be with another and another and not sure but I feel like it would have been easy to give into some temptations later after marriage with someone other than my husband but the standard had been set by a choice I made early on.

I admire you for making the commitment to the Lord and for wanting to honor that but believe me when I say, I also understand the temptations when you get so 'hot', you hardly know what to do. Respecting yourself is paramount. In your heart, I believe you know what is right for you. No one can make this decision for you but I just want to encourage you in your choice you have made. Peace of mind at the end of a date means a lot, knowing you didn't go beyond what standard you have set for yourself.

Also know, that temptations don't end when you get married. Those choices just keep coming at you!! :)

Stand for what you believe is right in all areas, not just the sexual ones. Self-respect will carry a person a long way when the chips are down. I am proud of you. God knows our temptations but He also gives us strength for the day.

Simple Asian · Dec 21, 2007, 11:27 PM

we need more info here... why you broke up with him the first place... is he the right person you want to have it will for your first time and why not wait till you really ready not just b.c you are horny ^^...

much loves

crispy_chick · Jan 3, 2008, 07:38 PM

Ok from my personal experience and I mean mine not yours, so yeah I am not judging you or nothing like that nor am I saying it will be the same for you, however this is just my opinion...
OK now I have said that I will say this...
You don't sound ready and I admire the fact you have so much self control and personally if I could go back in time I would erase the 9 guys I have had sexual relations with, but my 10th no because I don't regret having kids to him but saying to erase him would say that... I thought I was ready when I lost my virginity, but when that guy cheated on me and I left him you could say I lost all respect for myself and I couldn't give in to temptation so in just a short time I jumped from guy to guy. Even a couple or chicks.. (no I don't think I am bi but they wanted me and I was curious and yes If some chick/guy cracked onto me now I would do my best to fight the temptation but I don't know if I could or not, But I have not come across that situation and usually the first thing I tell people when I meet them is that I am taken, however now I am single the test will be on) So I guess what I am saying is that I think you should wait, look at today as a test for your future, don't give in to temptation esp if your saying you feel so tempted yet you want to wait... You want to wait for a reason don't regret doing something you could have stopped yourself from doing...
You might not regret it at the moment, or for a while, but think about it like this, if your not 100% sure its what you want then later in life you will look back and say "why didnt I wait?"...
Just think about it...
Esp if your not in a stable relationship.

bobthesnob · Jan 4, 2008, 11:21 PM

If you think that your doing the right thing at that time then its all good. Do what's best for you.Do what you think is right.