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thabroodgirl · Dec 4, 2007, 05:19 AM

So here's my story... I went out with this guy for about 2 months and we hit it right off.. he and I had basically everything in common from music, sports, qualities we liked in the other, etc. the only thing was that he was one year younger than me but for us, age didn't matter at all because he was mature. It was going so well and we always would talk about how we clicked just like that and saying how this was on another level and such... until I started having feelings for another guy (which was stupid because nothing was going to happen with that guy). Well anyway, I told him that I no longer liked him because my feelings changed and I told him that my feelings always come back but he should wait for me.. he comforted me and said that he'll always like me and we'll always be friends. He was pretty sad and hurt about it but we broke it off anyway and then we were friends for about three weeks or so. I forgot how we stopped talking but we just stopped and it was at bad terms from then on because whenever we would see each other we would try to avoid each other. Well I started it because I was looking like a hot mess that day and I didn't want to see him but then he literally ran off when he saw me at a store. (like his friend was yelling after him, where are you going? Lol) anyway after about 6 months, I started developing these feelings for him again and it drove me insane.. so I finally got the nerve to message him and say hey, I miss you, I don't know why we're not talking and I really care for you, lets get together next week and I'll treat you out, I want to make things right blah blah.. it was pretty long but anyway he messages me two hours later and its very short, yea we can chill, there's nothing to make right, you don't have to be feeling like that. And then I was like okay well hit me up next week. He never ended up hitting me up or anything and I went away for the summer. I still have deeep feelings for him and its not going away, and has been continuing for about ten months now and we haven't talked in about 10 months.. I doubt he knows about my feelings for him.. but all I want is a direct answer from him and then I'll know if I should move on or not.. is there any hope? Should I try once more to get together with him and just hang out as friends? What should I do?

chris08 · Dec 4, 2007, 05:33 AM

Maybe he's moved on himself!

Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 11:09 AM

I think you should leave him alone. You dumped him and left him hanging once and then forgot about it, he is probably not wanting to go that route with you again. I don't blame him. Your loss is someone else's gain.

talaniman · Dec 4, 2007, 01:51 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I think you should leave him alone. You dumped him and left him hanging once and then forgot about it, he is probably not wanting to go that route with you again. I don't blame him. Your loss is someone else's gain.

Had to spread the love Homegirl, but its right on the point. You just can't expect him to fall for you after how he was treated by you, nor should you be bothering him, as it takes a lot to get over this sort of treatment, and you should respect that, and leave him alone. Your confusion is no excuse to ignore his hurt feelings to get what you want. Leave him alone.

thabroodgirl · Dec 4, 2007, 05:26 PM

The thing is though, its been over a year now.. Im just wondering how long does it take to be on friends terms? But I guess what you're saying is to leave him alone? I just want a direct answer from him..
And by the way, he didn't know about the other guy.. shady as it sounds, I told him I just lost interest which is what really happened. He just thought I was confusing in the end.

s_cianci · Dec 4, 2007, 05:40 PM

Sounds like it's time to move on. He obviously isn't interested in a reconciliation or it would have happened by now.

Homegirl 50 · Dec 4, 2007, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by thabroodgirl

the thing is though, its been over a year now.. Im just wondering how long does it take to be on friends terms? but I guess what you're saying is to leave him alone? I just want a direct answer from him..
and btw, he didnt know about the other guy.. shady as it sounds, I told him I just lost interest which is what really happened. he just thought I was confusing in the end.

You may not get it. He may not want to deal with you at all, he does not owe you anything. Just assume he wants no part of you and leave him alone.

A thing to remember is "don't burn your bridges". If you want to one day have a friendship after a break up, try honesty. It's easier to deal with. You burned your bridges with this guy.