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chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 05:52 AM

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Here's were it get weird now she called me today cause she had a fight with one of her guy friends she wanted me to call and defend her. I took the call kind of as a excuse so we spoke and evenetly I went to her friends house and met up with her. First she took my phone and checks all the numbers then we sat and talked and she came up to me hughed me sat next to me and all. Then she started crying and kept joking how's she never getting back all this. And she just kept cryinng so if I wasn't confused before now I'm totally lost

Why is she doing this . She resting her head on me with her arm around me staring at my eyes telling me don't wait for me... Is she kidding me does she really not have a clue . Could she be lonely and just unsure?? I don't no anymore. I don't no anythign.

Chery · Dec 2, 2007, 07:12 AM

Ask for another meeting... take your video camera with you this time.

Then, send it into Starsearch - when she gets her first screentest and a part in a movie, make sure she autographs something for you to remember her by.

She sounds like a 'rising star' to me.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 07:26 AM

Originally Posted by Chery

Ask for another meeting... take your video camera with you this time.

Then, send it into Starsearch - when she gets her first screentest and a part in a movie, make sure she autographs something for you to remember her by.

She sounds like a 'rising star' to me.

So your sayign its all a act and she doesn't mean it.?

Chery · Dec 2, 2007, 07:56 AM

Chris...

It's only my opinion, so take it for what it's worth to you. I'm 56 years old, been through many stages of my own, have a knack or 'reading' people, just check out my other posts for a 'track record'.

I don't judge people, I just sometimes point out some things they already know but don't want it to be true for their own reasons.

All I am suggesting at this point is to take a look at the entire picture and come to your senses and make a choice. It's up to you.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 08:05 AM

Well I appreciate your opinion totally. I just wanted to make sure I understood what you were saying in the previous post. I really do not feel like getting hurt but it did feel good a bit to see her emmtional but it might be fake!

s_cianci · Dec 2, 2007, 08:07 AM

I think she is lonely and insecure. And I don't think she's a good catch.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 08:15 AM

I am starting to hear a lot of that mssg that's she insecure and lonely. I hope I did not make the wrong choice by going there yesterday.

shygrneyzs · Dec 2, 2007, 08:21 AM

Your first mistake was taking that phone call, Chris. Second one was going to see her. Why in the world did she take your phone and look at the phone numbers - AND you allowed her to do that? She was checking up on you, to see who you have been talking and you allowed that. I am stumped.

Then you still stayed there while she was crying and playing the eye stare game with you? Chris, I have said it before and I will say it again, you really need to not have any contact whatsoever with her. You also need to get into some professional counseling.

This girl is as toxic as wastedump material. Cries and hugs you then tells you not to wait for her. Geeeszzzz. Do what she says then - do not wait for her. Please do not.

I am sure you do not know what to do anymore and which direction to go. The girl is sick and twisted and into drama. I would hope you would rise above all that and find your own way in the world without her and any of her trappings. You said it felt good to see her get so emotional - what did that provide for you? You just got more confused. So many people have said to you to stay away from her and they are all right. Those same people have said you need help getting over her and they are right in that too. You say she is in denial - I wonder if you, also, are in that same boat. Why else would you run to her aid, to defend her? Defend her against what or who? You are not superman, Chris. You are not responsible for anything having to do with her.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 08:30 AM

Originally Posted by shygrneyzs

Your first mistake was taking that phone call, Chris. Second one was going to see her. Why in the world did she take your phone and look at the phone numbers - AND you allowed her to do that? She was checking up on you, to see who you have been talking and you allowed that. I am stumped.

Then you still stayed there while she was crying and playing the eye stare game with you? Chris, I have said it before and I will say it again, you really need to not have any contact whatsoever with her. You also need to get into some professional counseling.

This girl is as toxic as wastedump material. Cries and hugs you then tells you not to wait for her. Geeeszzzz. Do what she says then - do not wait for her. Please do not.

I am sure you do not know what to do anymore and which direction to go. The girl is sick and twisted and into drama. I would hope you would rise above all that and find your own way in the world without her and any of her trappings. You said it felt good to see her get so emotional - what did that provide for you? You just got more confused. So many people have said to you to stay away from her and they are all right. Those same people have said you need help getting over her and they are right in that too. You say she is in denial - I wonder if you, also, are in that same boat. Why else would you run to her aid, to defend her? Defend her against what or who? You are not superman, Chris. You are not responsible for anything having to do with her.

Yea as much as I want to be over her I'm not seeing her yesterday made me see that. Im not sure how to deal with it but now it's a little harder I want so much for things to be like they were but is this even possible does she have a clue what she wants. Because I'm not sure what I want.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 08:32 AM

I have the biggest urge to text her now and ask her straight out if she's playing games with me. I can't deal with games I want to know if she's genuined at all or if it is true and she's just lonely and confused I want to no it all.

shygrneyzs · Dec 2, 2007, 08:35 AM

She would not tell you she is playing games with you. She would say something like, "What do you mean by that?"

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 08:38 AM

Originally Posted by shygrneyzs

She would not tell you she is playing games with you. She would say something like, "What do you mean by that?"

I c, I would like to try things with her again I really would Im not sayign its right But I just would. Should I say something or just leave it. What can I say?

shygrneyzs · Dec 2, 2007, 08:43 AM

You mean to try working through the relationship? Once was not enough? No matter what anyone says here, you will do what you think is best. Even if it is going back to her. From all I have read, your life would be miserable - but it is your life. I have visions of you led around by a leash but it is your life.

Chery · Dec 2, 2007, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by shygrneyzs

You mean to try working through the relationship? Once was not enough? No matter what anyone says here, you will do what you think is best. Even if it is going back to her. From all I have read, your life would be miserable - but it is your life. I have visions of you led around by a leash but it is your life.

Chris.. Do you really need more 'interpretation'?

READ OUR LIPS... get professional advice as soon as possible. You cannot change or control others, and it's time you learned to take control of YOU instead of being so wishy-washy and easily maniplated.

Keep your distance and guard yourself against TOXIC WASTE!

kaitou · Dec 2, 2007, 09:21 AM

Originally Posted by chris28

I have teh biggest urge to text her now and ask her straight out if shes playing games with me. I can't deal with games I want to know if shes genuined at all or if it is true and shes just lonely and confused I want to no it all.

If you don't want to deal with games, then leave. If you want to stop being confused, stay away from her for a while, so you can clear your mind.

Even if you want to try things out with her again, I think it would be smarter to stay away from her for a while, so that your feelings can settle down first, and that you can think rationally about what you want to do.

I think you're in a nasty situation right now, and the best thing to do is to get out of this emotional roller coaster. Sort yourself out first, seriously!

Homegirl 50 · Dec 2, 2007, 09:56 AM

Originally Posted by chris28

I have the biggest urge to text her now and ask her straight out if shes playing games with me. I can't deal with games I want to know if shes genieind at all or if it is true and shes just lonely and confused I want to no it all.

Take that urge and flush it down the toilet. Leave the girl alone. If she is not mature , honest and sensible enough to tell you what is on her mind without the theatrics you don't need her. Don't play guessing games with her. Leave her alone!

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 10:36 AM

Yup use were all right I called she wants nothing to do with me... I need some serious help is more then I can say what a day what a weekend I'm am emotionally low/

Homegirl 50 · Dec 2, 2007, 10:43 AM

Well now you know where you stand. It is time to move on. Stop fixating on her and start living.
I wish you well.

chris28 · Dec 2, 2007, 10:44 AM

Thanks I no were I stand yes.. That's such a sick messed up thing to doooo. God I'm annoyed now... And hurt

Chery · Dec 2, 2007, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by chris28

yup use were all right i called she wants nothign to do with me..... I need some serious help is more then i can say what a day what a weekend im am emotionally low/

I hate to say it but... WE TOLD YOU SO...

Now, get the help you need and start healing. The sooner, the better.

And, no, I don't want to hear 'but I did everything for her, etc'... read other relationship posts and gain strength to get back to YOU.

At least now you know where you stand from her point of view, take it serious this time, please.