[skifastr11]

I'm wondering if it's immature to ask a someone's friend if they like you. I feel like it's a little high school, but I've been good friends with this person for 7 years and I wouldn't want to bring up the fact that I like her (and possibly ruin the friendship) without knowing that she likes me back. I think I see the small little hints that she might, but I'm still not sure enough yet. I don't want to bring it up because we have so much in common and get along great and I'm afraid that if I bring it up it'll make things awkward between us.

[charlotte234s]

It's a little immature haha, sure, but it's not wrong, or disrespectful, I don't think.

[skifastr11]

It's hard because I want to just man up and say something, but I'm afraid that it'll make things awkward. That's why I would want to ask her friends if she has said anything about me. I would ultimately be the one to tell her, but I guess I would want more info before I risk possibly damaging a friendship.

I've picked up on some things here and there that seem a little more friendly than normal, but then again I'm totally in the dark as to what she's thinking. She may just want to be close friends or she may be trying to send me signals but is afraid to come out and say it... I'm not sure, which is why I've considered asking some of her other friends if they know anything.

[BMI]

Nah man, you can't ask the friend, she'll tell her anyway. You got to face this one HEAD ON! Just bust up and do it, its quite common to like a long time friend, I'm sure she'll understand.

As for being awkward, it maybe for a while if she doesn't feel the same, but its all or none, you either do it or remain friends. The asking of the friend is a shortcut and I doubt u'll get a real response.

Watch Rocky 4 before you ask though and let me know what happens, I too need to bust something on an ex, so we are kind of both going through the same thing, y'know, being men:)

[oneguyinohio]

If you involve the friends, you might as well just go strait to the source and ask her, because sure as anything, the word will get back to her from the friends... You don't need to have them boost your confidence... or even offer their opinions... If exploring the situation a bit deeper messes up things between you, at least you will know that the situation is not what you might have hoped for... Sitting on the fence will not get you to what ever is on the other side... and it can be a pain in the but! At this point, you really have nothing to lose by asking her out... She'll either accept or decline... maybe she doesn't know if you are interested... So talk to her about where she might like the friendship to go, and be prepared either way... Getting an answer will be better than always wondering what if I had tried.

[skifastr11]

True True... We're planning on hanging out this Sunday to go to an exhibit at the Boston museum of Science (kinda nerdy I guess) but it's the CSI exhibit which sounds fun. Other than that we're going out to dinner and possibly a movie the following Sunday night. She moved out of my hometown to LA this past summer so we won't see each other over break so I offered we go to dinner and maybe a movie or something before we both leave, and she offered to come to my campus which I'm taking as a good sign. I'm thinking of saying something this Sunday so that if it turns out well the next week will be more of a date.