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    lil_bit67 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 24, 2007, 07:55 PM
    what should I do to get the father of my child to come back to me?
    I had been dating a fabulous man for 2 years, I found out I was pregnant in March and he basically told me to get rid of the baby or he was going to leave me. He was divorced when I met him and has 3 other children, he tells me his life is too complicated with the children he has and doesn't have room in his life for another one. I decided to keep the baby and the whole pregnancy he did nothing but call me to upset me with hopes that I would miscarry. We were in love and he told me that our relationship was a sham that he didn't love me and doesn't want me or my bastard son. I have not seen him in 8 months he won't answer my phone calls and I recently found out he moved to another state with another woman. I have had to deal with this all by myself, I am so hurt because I loved him with all my heart and did nothing to deserve the way he treats me. I don't want to raise my son without him and don't want to be without him either. I know most people would say move on but it is so hard to carry his child not know where he is, and knowing how happy we were before this happened. I believe in forgiveness and if he was to apologize to me I would accept that and try to make things work. We were going to get married and I never saw this coming. He hates and resents me for doing this to him, but I didn't do this alone but here I am alone. I just would like to know what to do or say to get him to talk to me and reconsider being with us. I have tried everything to get him to come back but it didn't work in my favor because he has moved away from me and his other kids with his x's. Please someone help me with some type of advice to make him come around.
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    Nov 24, 2007, 08:28 PM
    ?? I would suggest some seroius counseling, why or how anyone can still "want" someone who treated you in such a way, and already went away with another women.

    From the common sense side, you are not going to get him back, and to be honest you are much better off without a person like this.

    You move on with your life, meet someone else and get to know them first before you start sleeping with them, to know that they are looking for the same type of life you are.

    Please don't live in a memory, he showed his true nature after you got pregnant and that is what you need to think of also.

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