[packer2007]

Do people ever grow out of the group sex and swinging lifestyles? Do they ever get tired of it as they get older and want a relationship with one person or do they always have that lifestyle?

[Ash123]

Yes and no.

I know people who have done before married, after married (divorced now), and later.But many people reserve swinging for the college days - and mature...

As life experiences mount,people tend to grow up and away towards a loyal relationship.

As far as age, generally as hormones decline actions tend to recede as well.

Why?

[jillianleab]

Hugh Hefner hasn't.

Hugh M. Hefner

[Ash123]

Ummm if it is Hugh Hefner - go enjoy the grottoes!

If not, enjoy the... dysfunction.

[Synnen]

/sigh

Okay--Polyamory is a perfectly acceptable lifestyle FOR SOME PEOPLE.

My husband and I have had the threesomes, and we're just FINE, thank you very much.

The problem is--most people have group sex, threesomes, swinging--for the WRONG reasons.

You have to have a TON of trust--especially trust that your partner is telling you the truth about their feelings, and that you respect your partner enough to do the same--tell the truth, I mean.

It's NOT about just getting off with another person, or about fulfilling a fantasy, or whatever--but that's a part of it, certainly. It IS about exploring, about loving, and about knowing where EXACTLY the lines are.

Most people deceive themselves too much, and are too immature in general about sex, to be able to handle polyamory. And for most people--it's just not their thing, except for some experimenting in college or whatever.

So--to answer your question--MOST people grow out of it. SOME people grow INTO it. But the ones that do it right--they do it in a loving and trusting relationship, and know that love, trust, communication, and honesty are essential to ANY relationship, and have enough trust and faith in each other that they can do it.

Believe me--it's a rare couple that makes it work, but some do, and do it very well.