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xjennx · Nov 19, 2007, 03:31 PM

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. He said he was unhappy because he felt like I was smothering him. Looking at it, I was. He never had alone time with his friends, or really by himself for that matter. He says he still loves me and I've asked him several times if it's really over for good and he says he doesn't know, that he just wants space. I kept pushing saying that things could be different and I've realized the mistakes I've made. I've tried to give him space... we've gone like four days without talking, but then he either sends me a text or I text him. All he says he wants from me is to just stop pressuring him. I'm willing to do this, but it's so hard when I don't know if it's too late to back off him at this point. I love this man with my whole heart and I'm hurting so deeply, I just don't know what to do anymore. He tells me I have nothing to worry about when it comes to him seeing or dating other women. Is this his way of telling me that he still wants me, but just not the pressure of me trying to control the situation? I need to know how to handle this so I can get the love of my life back :)

BiWiccanAndProud · Nov 19, 2007, 03:50 PM

Main points... he still loves you, you still love him, he wanted space, you're willing to give it. Far as I can see... problems solved. Question though... have you told him you are ready to try again, that you will give him space and not follow him like a little lost puppy or cling two him with the grip of The Rock? If not... DO IT! Things will fall into place. I'm willing gto bet you end up together again. As I like to say... if you end on good terms then it is liable to end up back together if you still like each other.

Homegirl 50 · Nov 19, 2007, 06:05 PM

I'm a firm believer in when someone says they want space give it to them, but go on with your life. It is rather selfish to have someone wait around for you while you're having your "space"
If he wants space, end it with him otherwise you are in limbo.
Put your sanity before his space.

Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 06:09 PM

Omg I'm going through the same thing... he tells me that he wants space but still wants to be with me. But he does spend enough time with his friends. I don't understand.. I think you should give him the space he wants and watch what he does. Wait till he ask for you to come back and play hard to get. That's the only way he will appreciate you and really want you back.

Ash123 · Nov 19, 2007, 06:53 PM

Classic.

People want space but they no one wants to lose a friend.....so, we try!
But two people that have been intimate need SPACE to determine if they are better
as friends or lovers or both.

Do not pressure and let them feel your energy going the other way. It will make him think.
In the meantime, please read mmy guide below and go from there.

After that = back away. Your work is DONe for now... Remember it's their job, not yours.