[sumit84]

Hi! There!
My girlfriend broke up our relationship of 1 yr and 7 months last week! As I read comments and websites I came to know that I was too much needy in front of her that's why she dumped me! She doesn't even want to see me now! I just want to ask can I get her back? Becoz my this needy nature exploded when she told me that she needs some space I did every possible thing which a fool can do to get his girl! I really did many mistakes and shown her that I am too needy!
But can it be possible somehow that she will be attracted to me again? I can anything for this! and in future I will never have this nature!!
I shall be very thankful for your advice!! I really really need your advice and I am nervous!!

[J_9]

We already told you to leave the poor girl alone.

She told you she needs space give it to her. If she comes back, you're lucky, but don't expect it.

[crushedovernover]

Listen to J9.. If you want your answer there it is. Attraction is lost if you don't leave her alone. It will just make her LESS attracted to you and you will even repulse her. I've her space and live your life. When she sees you being happy without her she will want that. Just let her be and MOVE ON.. Moving on doesn't mean you haveto stop loving her or wanting her. YOu are just walking away from a bad situation at this time. Doesn't mean down the road you two can't reconcile. Just let her be and let her live her life. Your not in control, when you realize this things will become easier.

[statesgirl]

Let her think for awhile and chill out. I know its soooo hard but you have to hang in there. Don't let her change you in anyway. If you wants you again it will be because she wants who you truly are. Also if its meant to be, it will be.

[Chery]

After reading your other posts it is my opinion that you are obsessed with this too darned much!

Have you thought of maybe seeking a therapist yourself?

I think this would help you a lot more than all the turmoil you are going through. Just saying that you know you are 'needy' will not help if you don't do something about it.

AND... now leave her alone, let her live her life, and learn to deal with rejection just like every other emotional human being in this world.

Good luck, and I hope your journey to recovery is not too long.

Your wasting valuable time in your life... you need to find stability within.

[stonewilder]

If you were a needy person last week then you are still a needy person this week. No one can change their ways that fast and stick with it for long.