[enigmagnetic]

Yeah music is wonderful in its capacity to help with healing. I think I started turning for the better when I picked up Ok Computer by Radiohead, I had never heard of them but they blew me away and I got thus far addicted to their music.

[alpha_zero]

Lol nice. Yea once you actually pay attention you realise how it can help you in everyday life. Oh well relationship went down the crapper meh oh well, it's not like I am dying here or something. A new day for the sun to shine and wake up to.

[enigmagnetic]

Yeah, you'll see it slowly subside. The crazy part is that the stronger you feel the more confident you become. At least for me. I get down every once in a while still but honestly speaking, I am way more confident now than I was when me and my ex were still together. In any case stay strong.

[alpha_zero]

I think sometimes I get TOOO confident lol. I think that is a minus for me I think I need to tone it down just a bit, like offt I know I'm not the best thing in this world but sometimes I like to think it for some reason makes me feel good.

[alpha_zero]

UPDATE: I hope you guys/girls don't mind me doing these... lol just keeping you posted. Well anyway I have been feeling pretty darn good lately. Haven't talked to my ex for 2 weeks and feel really good. I heard some news that she might be dropping out of university for one year cause she feels she is not *ready* so I guess that is a plus for me, for healing faster. As for other things, they've been going good, I've been hitting on other girls already, and I think one might like me so far. Just kind of a gut feeling really. Anyway I'm surprised how well I am taking this really. Thanks for the help and ill keep you posted if anything else happens. Peace

[Homegirl 50]

Good for you! Keep up the good work.

[enigmagnetic]

UPDATE: i hope you guys/girls dont mind me doing these...lol just keeping you posted. Well anyways I have been feeling pretty darn good lately. Haven't talked to my ex for 2 weeks and feel really good. I heard some news that she might be dropping out of university for one year cause she feels she is not *ready* so i guess that is a plus for me, for healing faster. As for other things, they've been going good, ive been hitting on other girls already, and i think one might like me so far. Just kind of a gut feeling really. Anyways im surprised how well i am taking this really. Thanks for the help and ill keep you posted if anything else happens. Peace

Her dropping out of the university is related to the reason why she broke up with you. Same thing happened with my last girlfriend. She broke up with me dropped out of school and tried to become a stewardess. I think it's like an identity crisis. That's why I think relationships while both or one are young are hard to keep. A lot of young people haven't really found themselves yet. I didn't get it either but overtime I realized she was just scared with the possible outlook of having to deal with all these stressors. I was a stressor and so was school so both were nixed. Doesn't mean the other person is a bad person more so that they weren't sure or happy with their current situation. You look like you're healing well. Keep up the good work, you're probably inspiring many people on this forum. Take Care.

[alpha_zero]

Well I don't know cause I think either she was dating me and another guy or after a week we broke up she is dating another guy already. Maybe she's just one of those girls who contradicts themselves and to not feel alone they go find another face you know like a throw back or a rebound. In that case if that is what she did that is very low of her and I somewhat lost some respect for her. I just can't amagine how people can do that and have no regard or put themselves in the other persons shoes and know what it feels like so quickly and soon. This mourning I woke up and felt a bit down, but hey I guess you can't drive forever and not expect to hit a speed bump now and then. Oh well I just have to keep my mind busy.

[alpha_zero]

UPDATE: Sorry it has been so long guys, I have been really busy lately. So yea everything has been going really good lately, and I'm feeling great. It was my birthday on the 30th of OCT so my friends and I were partying hard and stuff and had a lot of fun. Haven't seen or talked to me ex for about 4-5 weeks and I feel good. The only time I "heard" from her was when my friend saw pics of her and her new boyfriend on Facebook, my friend got so pissed and typed on her wall *Wow you're the definition of b!t$h* lmao I found out later and well I thought it was really amsuing so I laughed for about 5 minutes lol. I deleted her fromm all my conacts and everything now she is just a shadow to me. There is this other girl now. On my birthday we couldn't do anythnig so I asked her what she was doing on halloween and she said *ohh I'm just sitting on my a$$ at home doing nothing*. So I played it smooth and said *How about you come and sit on your a$$ at my house and help me hand out candy* So she agreed and we exchanged numbers and she came over. She was snugglnig up to me a bit but I didn't wanan rush things so I let her do w/e she wanted. It was a good night. Lately she's been texting me a lot saying she misses me and she can't wait till we hang again. So things are finally looking up again for me. School is great, I play Halo 3 online now :p and this other girl likes me basically. Thanks for all your help. If anything major happens ill keep you posted. Thanks

[alpha_zero]

Well this is part 2 of my thread. My first one was about this girl and blah blah blah she dumped me blah blah blah lol. Ok well things are looknig up and going my way again. I feel great and everything is going well. Ive been flirting A lot and 4 girls in university like me right now, but this certain special one caught my attention. Me and the guys and this girl went upstairs at uni to a restaurant and buy our friend a beer cause it was his birthday. So she bought herself one. I was just talking with the guys then she started to flirt with me a bit and stuff. Then we went back inside the restaurant and they sat at a table and there was no room for me to sit so she said for me to sit on her lap *usually for me it's the other way around but I did*. So that and that happened. Then her food came and I got off her and crouched on the ground. Then she started to feed me fries and stuff I thought that was very nice of her. Then after that she made a joke about me and I made this like sad puppy dog face and she said *aww it is OK I love you* then she brought my head over to her and she kissed my cheek. So I was thinking *mother of god she likes me and she is freaking gorgous*. But then I was thinking maybe she could use the whole *ohhh I was buzzed a bit and did some things* but the thing is that she only had one beer. And after I left my friends said she was acting fine after that so id on't know. Im like pretty sure she likes me so I can't wait to see her again at school really. Just wanted to get your input and stuff and my next move would be to ask her out. Thanks

[Am1089]

I think you should go for it. Ask her out, but don't go too crazy over her. Be yourself.

[enigmagnetic]

Yeah, she digs you. Just take a deep breath, you know you want to be smooth about it. Find something cool to do like a concert or some festival and come up to her and say something like "yeah so I got this extra ticket, wanna come?" Look into her eyes when you say it and say it like you have 100% confidence that she would be an idiot not to take it. Unwavering. Cheers!

[alpha_zero]

Yea I had the feeling. And plus she invited me to her birthday party she is having and I'm going to tell her I booked off work especially for her so I could come to make her feel really good, and then maybe buy her a little something just to show her you know.

[kelaineb]

take it for face value... if she was strong enough to ask you to stop... she's strong enough to come and talk to you.. sit by you w/e. you don't have to be at her beck and call and do w/e she wants you to at the moment... do what YOU want. If you feel like sitting by her on the bus but not in class then do that. You don't need an explanation... maybe shell be a little worried about what she gave up... not that its supposed to be all about mind games... its not,. that's why my advice to you is do whatever it is you feel like at the moment and don't worry about impressions or opinions or anything like that.. life is too short. Just do what feels right and you can't make a mistake... because its as honest as you'll get.

[Chery]

I am so glad that things are turning to the positive side of life for you again. We told you it would take time, and am happy that it did not take tooo longgg.

Re-discovered confidence and attraction can be fun, can't it..

Wishing you lots and lots of fun and happiness!

[kelaineb]

Yeah that's awesome.. see everything works out in its own way.. some way or another.. you know.

[Chery]

yeah thats awesome.. see everything works out in its own way.. some way or another.. ya know.

Know exactly what you mean. I am happier now than I was within the last two years. I don't have a relationship, but I have a lot of friends and family who support me and I'm doing things I want to do for a change and not compromise and it feels great!

Don't have to put up with anyone's crap anymore...

[kelaineb]

That's great! Sometimes it takes time alone to realize what you have... instead of always wanting more. (not that I'm saying you do) but its kind of a breath of fresh air to be free and know that there's something good out there and you just haven't found it yet... but will soon