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Lillili · Nov 10, 2007, 09:14 AM

Hi I know there's a couple posts already but they didn't really answer my question and most of them were kids. I was a virgin till 25 then I met my future husband and felt I was ready. I've now been married since sept 15th. Before sex I give my husband attention and such. And visa versa. A couple nights ago he said he really wanted me to have an orgasm. My happyness means a lot to him. But I've never played with myself before which I'm guessing ill have to do to find my spots. But last night I started having the signs. Body jolting hips tingling but it didn't seem to hit the climax I was right there and then after that it started hurting my hips and such. So I'm not sure. Anyone have suggestions? Or info? Thanks for reading and any helpful suggestions.

jbarrington · Nov 10, 2007, 11:13 AM

Were you trying this by yourself, or while he was around?

It's great that he wants to to help get you there. Since he hasn't been able to get you there yet, I would think that it might be good idea for you to try it by yourself. It might help teach you to recognize the signs that it's about to happen. Find the thing that really, really arouses you (reading or movie) so that it helps get you lost into your mood and fantasy. When you finally start getting them, then you can help teach your husband on how or what will help get you to your magical moment.

Also, on trying to reach your first, try to keep from thinking if this is the climax. Keep thinking only on the arousal, and how you can keep getting more and more aroused. Whatever you have to touch while thinking or reading to get yourself into a deeper and deeper state of arousal. Let the fantasies fly. An orgasm can be thought of as an arousal and stimulus overload.

The description of the jolting hips and tingling could have been what was starting to happen, but it also sounds like the position that you were in was causing problems wth your hips and interferring with the separate issue of climaxing. If you have the same problems in any position, then it hard to say unless someone else here has an answer, or your GYN doctor could tell you.