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Bobbie Ann · Jan 6, 2006, 12:17 PM

When my husband and I do have sex ( which isn't offen ) he wants me to have multiple Orgasm, but after the first one, which is really strong, it's hard to have a second one. I have told him that I need to rest at least ten minutes but he doesn't want me to wait, he just want me to have one after another like if he's having a contest with his self to see how many times he can get me to have one. Any idea?

nwsflash · Jan 6, 2006, 12:22 PM

Originally Posted by Bobbie Ann

When my husband and I do have sex ( which isn't offen ) he wants me to have multiple Orgasm, but after the first one, which is really strong, it's hard to have a second one. I have told him that I need to rest at least ten minutes but he doesn't want me to wait, he just want me to have one after another like if he's haveing a contest with his self to see how many times he can get me to have one. Any idea?

It may be he just wants to please you! But you need to tell him you will not have any orgasm if he has his pad and pen out keeping track of how many... As that would take some of the magic away from the mo'.

nymphetamine · Jan 6, 2006, 04:35 PM

That's the truth. You said your first orgasm is very strong. How do you know its not multiple orgasms all rolled into one? That can happen.

PrettyLady · Jan 6, 2006, 11:17 PM

Some women feel complete after one orgasm and are not interested in seconds or thirds. For some women, the first orgasm is the strongest and the rest are milder, for others, it's just the opposite. You don't require another one, and if you try to force yourself, it won't be very pleasurable. Tell your husband to stop pressuring you into having another orgasm right away. Let him know that you will need to take a break before the next one. All that is really important is that you enjoy yourselves.

fredg · Jan 7, 2006, 05:55 AM

Hi,
You have received some good answers before mine.
If your husband continues to bring up this with you, you might consider talking with him about going to a Professional Marriage Counselor, together.
I don't mean you marriage is in trouble, please don't get me wrong.
But, a marriage counselor can help work out things like this. It does sound as if your husband wants too much out of your sexual relationship, or doesn't understand what he is asking. A counselor might be able to help him understand, and help work it out with you both. I do wish you the best of luck.

JoeCanada76 · Jan 7, 2006, 06:12 AM

He is playing a foolish game with you. You can only have one. One that is really good. Some women do not even orgasm. Orgasm is not the most important experience that there is. There is the making love. Being satisified. If you are satisfied then he needs to know that is it. If he is not that there is other things that can be done to satisfy him if you want to.

Joe

nymphetamine · Jan 7, 2006, 06:35 AM

You know what it is you. They have everyone thinking that all women are supposed to have one after the other and so he thinks she's supposed to do that too. He probably thinks that he's not doing something right because of it and that's why he's pressuring her. So he needs to be reducated on the fact that the people saying this are wrong. He should be happy that she has one intense one.

Marleyboybob · Jan 7, 2006, 09:41 AM

Just tell him that you can not force yourself to have another one after the one you had a few seconds ago!

letmetellu · Jan 7, 2006, 10:49 AM

Next time you have sex and he cums, tell him to have another one immediately, then you two can discuss his problem.

white_bod · Jan 13, 2006, 06:49 AM

How about if you don't seem to ever get an orgasm?? What could we be doing wrong? He always cums but I don't

DJ 'H' · Jan 13, 2006, 07:42 AM

Well, it may be that your husband needs to enforce some more foreplay or start using foreplay. This a huge and if he hits the right spots, then you will have maximum results. Believe!!

bizygurl · Jan 13, 2006, 07:56 AM

I think the idea of multiple orgasims are a bit overated. Everyone thinks that woman are suppose to have them. But I don't think they are that common like everyone thinks they are. Most of the time I think that the first one is probably a few wrapped up into one. Sometimes Illl have one that lasts longer than normal. But I never expirenced one and then another one a few minutes later. Your husband shouldn't pressure you into having "multiples" its not that easy to do consciously. Hey if you get one big one that should be enough to satisfy both partners.:D

talaniman · Jan 13, 2006, 08:32 AM

You can either fake a few or tell him he needs to work harder,if he balks tell him it was his idea in the first place and he better live up to his word,If he's still alive after a few hours slap him cross his head and tell him you ain't finished yet! By this time he should be ready to listen to reason!:cool: :rolleyes: :eek:

JoeCanada76 · Jan 13, 2006, 08:34 AM

I never even thought of that idea. That is an awsome idea, I hear some women do that anyway to make their man think they are doing the job right. FAKING ORGASM. HOPE you can pretend well.

JoeCanada76 · Jan 13, 2006, 08:38 AM

The only thing about faking is it might make him more determined for you to have them all the time.:eek:

bizygurl · Jan 13, 2006, 09:54 AM

The big difference between faking them and actually "trying" to have multiple orgasms, is that even if your guy expects it all the time, there is really no pressure on you to have more when you fake them. Its better than really trying at it and not succeeding and getting frustrated. There is nothing wrong with a little fake "oohing and ahhing" to get it done.

DJ 'H' · Jan 13, 2006, 10:15 AM

Originally Posted by bizygurl

The big difference between faking them and actually "trying" to have multiple orgasms, is that even if your guy expects it all the time, there is really no pressure on you to have more when you fake them. Its better than really trying at it and not succeeding and getting frustrated. There is nothing wrong with a little fake "oohing and ahhing" to get it done.

No harm at all :)

Sunni · Jan 16, 2006, 03:41 PM

Originally Posted by Bobbie Ann

When my husband and I do have sex ( which isn't offen ) he wants me to have multiple Orgasm, but after the first one, which is really strong, it's hard to have a second one. I have told him that I need to rest at least ten minutes but he doesn't want me to wait, he just want me to have one after another like if he's haveing a contest with his self to see how many times he can get me to have one. Any idea?

It is possible to have multiple orgasms if you are relaxed and not under pressure from your husband. It is not right for him to demand more of you if you're "spent" after the first one. You can't have an orgasm under pressure; it just causes frustration and may eventually cause resentment toward him for putting this kind of pressure on you.

Chanceymoe · Feb 22, 2006, 03:09 PM

Is it possible to have spontaneous orgasms. For no reason what so ever, it can happen to me. Not when I'm with my husband, but all by myself, and I haven't been trying to do it, it just happens.

Chery · Feb 24, 2006, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by Chanceymoe

Is it possible to have spontaneous orgasms. For no reason what so ever, it can happen to me. Not when I'm with my husband, but all by myself, and I haven't been trying to do it, it just happens.

It's like one in a million, but is possible. Take this subject up with your doctor, you'll get reassured that there is nothing wrong with you.

Some of us would consider you a lucky girl!