[kiki_doki]

I misread or misunderstood what you were saying and my words were not meant to further add to your pain... believe me. I thought u were still with this crazy person who seems to have no boundaries!! And as well as "stealing you away from your wife" (I know it takes two but just go with me) she is now adding insult to injury and making the whole situation very painful... I can only look to my (over used) saying: lock her off. I would love to shake your xgf back to her senses! You need to suggest to your wife that she totally ignores this woman as well as you doing it to, this wall of silence will hopefully bring this whole situation to an end so that your wife and you can begin to move on!

[Homegirl 50]

Ok, here we go everyone.....

I just got off the phone from my ex wife, she wanted to talk to me about something that had been bothering her for a few weeks ever since I told her my ex gf knew that I had called my ex wife to go off about how happy every should feel now that she had broken up with me. Come to find out......My ex gf has been masking a bogus person and emailing my ex wife for 3 years, 3 YEARS! They have been email friends for 3 years. My ex wife had no idea, this girl had contacted her to spy on our marriage back when we were married. Then continued to talk to her after we got divorced. My ex wife considered her a close friend even though she had never met her. Just were email pals through this Mary Kay makeup stuff and became friends. My ex wife had told her personal details about everything about us and her life. Even now, she has still been in contact with her after we have been broken up for 3 months. ????? Am I just that stupid?????? How could I have been so taken?????? The reason my ex wife has been bothered for a few weeks is because I told her that my ex gf had called 3 days after I had talked to my ex wife and knew I had called her. There was NO WAY for my ex gf to know since my ex wife only told like her mom and dad and her best friend and this email pal, just those people. What a lying crap thing to do to someone. I am so disgusted, how could I have been so wrong. I really loved this woman, and wanted to marry this person. I sacrificed my marriage, friends, respect, etc... just to be with her. I can't even believe she could be so cruel. I am such a STUPID MF!!!!!!! This is how mean people can be. I can't even imagine how low I feel now. I am just about as dumb as it gets. I have been played this whole time, not even knowing it. What more can I say? I guess everyone is a lot smarter than I am. I am still in shock! This was so cruel to do to someone. I can't even believe I trusted her now.

You say you loved her so much yet when you divorce your wife, you kept her hanging on for two years. You cheated on your wife and your girlfriend has been emailing her. You both were doing some pretty low things. Get over it.

[Diamondstar03]

You say you loved her so much yet when you divorce your wife, you kept her hanging on for two years. You cheated on your wife and your girlfriend has been emailing her. You both were doing some pretty low things. Get over it.

I didn't really keep her hanging on for 2 years ,I wanted us to heal and explore being together without the drama of being sneaky and cheating. I already feel bad enough... Man I seem to really bring out the worst words from some people. I am sorry you think I am so horrible. I am a good person, please don't judge me like that please. Just am hurting and shocked. Can't believe what I keep finding out. Very painful!!

[friend4u178]

Hi Diamond
First of all let me say I feel sorry for your pain , no-one deserves to go through this but hey that's life and we all just have to cope as best we can and try and at least learn from it and become a better person.
I have read through this a couple of times now and it seems you are being crucified a little for cheating on your Ex wife. I actually can't really see in any of your posts where you actually have stated the circumstances of that ie: did you cheat with this new woman while you were still married etc. maybe if you could give us a bit of history on that it would help us to understand the situation a bit better.

[Homegirl 50]

I didnt really keep her hanging on for 2 years ,I wanted us to heal and explore being together without the drama of being sneaky and cheating. I already feel bad enough... Man I seem to really bring out the worst words from some people. I am sorry you think I am so horrible. I am a good person, please dont judge me like that please. Just am hurting and shocked. Can't believe what I keep finding out. Very painful!!!!!

I'm not saying you're a horrible person, and I do feel for you, I'm not judging you either. This s Karma, so get over it and move on. Being angry and hurt is not going to change things. Learn from the experience and move on.

[Homegirl 50]

Hi Diamond
First of all let me say I feel sorry for your pain , no-one deserves to go through this but hey thats life and we all just have to cope as best we can and try and at least learn from it and become a better person.
I have read through this a couple of times now and it seems you are being crucified a little for cheating on your Ex wife. I actually can't really see in any of your posts where you actually have stated the circumstances of that ie: did you cheat with this new woman while you were still married etc. maybe if you could give us a bit of history on that it would help us to understand the situation a bit better.

He had another post. He did cheat on his wife with this woman, got a divorce and then two years later this woman left him.

[friend4u178]

He had another post. He did cheat on his wife with this woman, got a divorce and then two years later this woman left him.

Thanks Homegirl
I haven't read the other post so thought I was going loopy cause I couldn't find anything here :-)

[Diamondstar03]

Yes I cheated! I guess I am getting what I deserve then. Seems like I have been posting for the wrong reasons. I am hurting again pretty bad. This has been like this for me for 3 1/2 months. Guess I can't get over it. Plus it seems that since I am the one who cheated I get slammed by certain people. I was coming here for some help and understanding. Sorry I am a cheater. I guess I will not whine anymore about how much I am hurting. Seems everything I believed in and wanted is gone. Just so you all know, I did love this woman. I would not have done this unless I did love her. She has completely deceived me. So I guess your right I am getting karma back on me. Sorry to be such a bother. I guess I will deal with my pain alone instead of being bashed once again for my bad behavior. Sorry to waste everyone's time to read about how much I hurt.

[friend4u178]

Hi Diamond
First of all let me say I honestly don't have any sympathy for cheaters because I have been on the receiveing end. And yes Karma seems to have caught up with you.

Having said that you do seem genuinely remorseful for your cheating and look , to be fair we all make mistakes. I think the people on here who have given you a bit of a kick up the butt have their reasons and to be honest I suppose you can't blame them.

But I still believe you deserve a few ears to listen to you and to have somewhere to vent because what you are going through now is just s**t. Well I'm happy to listen and give you my 2 bobs worth so don't leave , I'm sure some of the others will sympathise with you as well.

[Homegirl 50]

I feel for you too, I'm sorry you're hurting. I guess you should be thankful that you didn't marry this woman. But you do need to get past the anger so you can move on. 3 1/ months is not a lot of time, you will get better though. Try not to dwell on this.

[MissingHim2Much]

Diamondstar, I'm not sure you're going to see this because after the bashing you've taken you might not be back, BUT here's my 2 cents. I am not a fan of cheaters I mean my ex left me for someone else so I know how deeply it can hurt to have the one you love leave for another. That being said it has been a couple years now and it seems as though both you and your ex wife were moving on in your lifes. The thing I noticed in your posts is you genuinly seem upset about the fact that this woman played your ex wife. It's not like you came here to get complete sympathy for yourself. You mentioned several times that your ex wife didn't deserve this and I think you really mean that. It says to me that you still care enough about her that having this woman trick her like this is very upsetting to you. One thing you can count on is karma is a bi!@$. And even though its biting you in the butt right now, rest assured your ex girlfriend will get her bite in the butt in due time.

[JFFTidus]

Wouldn't normal people say something like when they first found out?

[Diamondstar03]

Hey everyone, just wanted to say I understand everyone's problem with someone who cheats. I have already had to deal with this for years on end. Just hard to hear it all over again especially when I am going through this twice. I can't believe I was so blind. I didn't want all of you to show me A lot of sympathy, but also didn't want to be blasted for being a cheater. I know I was wrong. Just wanted some insights to why this has happened to me, I mean why go through all the trouble to stay with someone for so long while they were married, deal with that for years. Then finally get the situation to where its just the 2 of you, then still be untrusting and shady? I just guess I got taken, seems I am too gulible for words. I am just so hurt. Thank you to everyone who replyed and showed me some sensitivity. I really appreciate, and I am sorry to all I have offended by being a low down cheater looking for sympathy.

[friend4u178]

Hey everyone, just wanted to say I understand everyone's problem with someone who cheats. I have already had to deal with this for years on end. Just hard to hear it all over again especially when I am going through this twice. I can't believe I was so blind. I didnt want all of you to show me ALOT of sympathy, but also didnt want to be blasted for being a cheater. I know I was wrong. Just wanted some insights to why this has happened to me, I mean why go through all the trouble to stay with someone for so long while they were married, deal with that for years. Then finally get the situation to where its just the 2 of you, then still be untrusting and shady? I just guess I got taken, seems I am too gulible for words. I am just so hurt. Thankyou to everyone who replyed and showed me some sensitivity. I really appreciate, and I am sorry to all I have offended by being a low down cheater looking for sympathy.

Ok so now you have been blasted lets keep helping you try to get through this. Please keep posting and venting , it actually feels good just to get it out of your head right.

[MissingHim2Much]

Ok so now you have been blasted lets keep helping you try to get through this. Please keep posting and venting , it actually feels good just to get it out of your head right.

I agree with friend4u, PAIN is PAIN and we're all going through it. Venting is really helpful and we want you to keep coming back.

[friend4u178]

I agree with friend4u, PAIN is PAIN and we're all going through it. Venting is really helpful and we want you to keep coming back.

Thanks Missing... hope your doing well!!