[Southerncutie695]

I was wondering if it abandoment if your father drops their child off at their grandprents because she can't leave with him. The reason for that is because the step mother doesn't want her there. The father doesn't pay the grandparents for taking care of this child, doesn't come see the child or talk to her. The grandparents pay for everything, make doc apps, takes her to them, and provides a roof over her head. I could I get her father on abandoment?

[donf]

Hey Cutie,

Who are you in the scrambled egg you portray in the above text, Mom?

My suggestion would first start you off at Child Protective Services or similar state agency.

Be prepared to answer why you do not have the child. Are you willing to take the child?

Personally, if the child is happy at the grandparents, then leave it be and suggest to them that they should sue for sole custody of the child and hold dad responsible and you also for the care and maintenance of the child.

[Southerncutie695]

No Im the Child who is stuck in this mess, my mom told she didn't love me and didn't want to have anything to do with me. So my dad took me and I went to his house. The night I arrived my step mom came home drunk cussing me and shoved me. My dad didn't do anything about it but take me to my grandparents and told me I couldn't go back to his house. Im not happy here and I am living a life of a 78 year old when I'm 17. My aunt on my moms side wants me, my dad said that was fine but isn't doing anything to get me there. So I'm stuck out in the middle of the country with people that I don't relate to. I am miserable. I am pretty stressed and upset. I want to live with my aunt, whom I am very close with. Im just not sure how to get to that point.

[ScottGem]

Talk to your grandparents and see if they will let you live with your aunt. Abandonment doesn't help you at all. But you will be 18 soon, and you can then move in with your aunt if you want to.

[Southerncutie695]

My grandparents don't have the right to tell me where I can live, they can get into trouble for that. They do not have custody of me, so they can't tell me that I can live there.

[Southerncutie695]

So now what do I do?

[ScottGem]

So move in with your aunt

[shygrneyzs]

You owe your grandparents the respect they deserve. They provide for you. Soon enough you will be 18 and an adult. You can move out on your own. Got to college, work and have your own life just how you want it.

Shame on your Dad for chosing his wife over his own flesh and blood but perhaps you are safer with your grandparents.

You say your grandparents do not have the right to tell you where to live. Try running away then and see how much fun that is. I would say be thankful for where you are and work on goals for independence.