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crushedovernover · Nov 2, 2007, 10:04 AM

Ok so bad I want to do this but I know I shouldn't. I know its immature of me to think this but it is driving me crazy. My ex and I have been split for 4 months on the 19 ofthis month. NC as well. Ive been accepting that she is with someone new but his age is driving me LOONY. I mean 25 and 39. Im sorry but that is just crazy. I want to send her a text over the net saying " how is sleeping with a 39 yr old treating ya" It won't say who it is from but she will know who it is from. I don't want to do it but in the same breath I do. It is hard for me to get over the fact this guy is so old and that she is doing this even though we have a son. Please tell me not to do this and how dumb I'm being

crushedovernover · Nov 2, 2007, 10:22 AM

I am the dam father.. Also she lives in ontario he lives in Florida. There is a huge distance between them. How can she want him as a father figure when he lives so far away.

Wondergirl · Nov 2, 2007, 10:23 AM

Don't do it for YOU.

(You're a smart guy. Why did I say it that way?)

Marriedguy · Nov 2, 2007, 10:25 AM

Sorry about the break-up.

There is a lot of things that makes women go for older guys. Its probably that this person has stability and maturity that is was looking for. Most guys her age are probably living at home, still in school, or job (not a career). I don't why you think she is crazy. Please stop sending text massaging and such. Just a dumb and immature way to deal with the break-up.

Wondergirl · Nov 2, 2007, 10:27 AM

Think about it. Why would any guy, no matter what his age, attract her away from you? Does he have qualities you lack or things she used to say she wished you had such as good listening skills, empathy, willingness to roll with her ideas about things, willingness to "be there for her", etc.

You always sound mad, like you have a short fuse. Would something like that turn her off from you?

JoeCanada76 · Nov 2, 2007, 10:27 AM

You obviously do not get it. In a women's life. They go through different stages. They go through so many different stages and at this stage she wants somebody that is an older person.

You are a dumb --- if you contact her. Leave it alone.

As far as your response to me it was short. I think you have a temper problem.

Joe

Wondergirl · Nov 2, 2007, 10:30 AM

Like Jesushelper said, she may be looking for a stable and mature father-figure type who will listen to her. What is there about you that might have driven her to such a person? Are you stable and mature? Were you a good listener?

crushedovernover · Nov 2, 2007, 10:34 AM

I haven't sent any text at all. I wascoming on here because I wanted too and Know I shouldn't. I live on my own. Yes still in school but her and I history is tremendous. 39 might be mature BECAUSE HE IS 39 holy crap. That is just old to me.

JoeCanada76 · Nov 2, 2007, 10:35 AM

You came on here for people to tell you not to contact her and everybody did.

It is not your problem or your concern. Move on already.

crushedovernover · Nov 2, 2007, 10:44 AM

Move on.. We were engaged. Ive been trying to move. I came on here because I was down and I didn't want to break no contact. I aprecciate the info. It is tough to watch her bring my son around this new man after only knowing him for a short while.

MissingHim2Much · Nov 2, 2007, 09:38 PM

Something you don't seem to know about women is, We look for men that are funny and intelligent we like men who will listen to our thoughts and dreams and men that take an interest in the things we like to do. And another thing that you don't sound like you know about women is once we find a man that possesses those traits we don't really care about LOOKS or AGE.

Fr_Chuck · Nov 2, 2007, 11:23 PM

First no there is nothing at all wrong with 39 and a 25 year old, there are couples with that age split all the time. 40 year old and a 54 year old is same difference. It is the fact she is with someone else, that is the real issue, the age is just the first thing you can carry on and fuss about.

HollyAnngel · Nov 3, 2007, 12:25 AM

I think that if u are still in love with her (which it sounds like u are) than u should wait for the right time and see how things go... Maybe this guy will not workout at all it hasn't been very long since u 2 broke up. If u have a good history with her the right thing will happen...