[geniegee2003]

Hi I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. It's a long story so please read on because I need your advice. We got together in February 2006 when we were both at school together, we had a fab relationship, very caring and fun. However when we went off to university in September 2006 he dumped me because of the distance thing. In January 2007 he said he wanted me back because he missed me and made a mistake. He dumped me again last week (october 2007) he said he doesn't feel the same about me as he used to. I want him back so badly, I want to know how I can get him back and make him feel like he did. But I don't know how. We had a great relationship, as we lived 100 miles apart at uni we'd visit each other every week/two weeks. During the summer we went on holiday and had the best time ever, we both enjoyed being with each other. I don't know how that could change so quickly, he says he got contemplative thoughts and didn't feel the same anymore. What should I do? We are perfect, he says he can't commit to one girl for life, but I believe with help he could and I want that girl to be me. Please help. What should I do?

[shellbell225]

I think your best bet for right now would be NC (no contact) with him. You cannot force or convince someone to be with you, they have to want to. The best thing you could do is show that you are confident and able to stand on your own. By doing this you will show him that you don't need him, but you want him. It's hard to do and you may need to fake it at first, but it has been my experience that men like strong, confident women and not needy ones. Good luck ;)