[BMI]

Oh sorry, WOuldn't want to DOMINATE the thread KP, last I looked you have 123727 posts to my under 200. And what has this got to do with me, actually the ONLY one who has agreed with me is the ORIGINAL POSTER if you forgot to read from the start (or maybe you only read my posts so it seems like I am"dominating" the thread) If crushed agrees with me and disagrees with all of you than is that not why he posted in the first place, if not for me all he would have is "your just jealous cause he's older than you", yeah great perspective!

[crushedovernover]

Well let me tell you how they met. She works as a waitress at a strip club. He was in there for his friends B day. He was down visiting form Florida. He picked her up in the club and then a week later we broke up. She is all about moving there. And yes this man might give her a sense of all of these things but please don't undermine me. Ive been working my to provide a life for her and I and our 2yr son. This guy can't offer what I can for many of reason. Im not trying to get her back, I'm going to let life take its course. I just find it funny that she told her friends he is 36 when really he turns 39 this weekend. So please ladies, I'm happy for your input but a age like that does mater

[BMI]

POINT PROVEN!

There's you ladies knight in shining armour, providing NOTHING to what Crushed has provided! Talk about that,young man going to school looking out for his child and still has a bond by the way him and his girl, sowhat more can you wanting someone, whatis he giving that crushed isn't, Gee, you think it could be money... I WONDER?

[Wondergirl]

Why does crushed wait until page 3 of this thread to "reveal" details that should have been part of his original post?

And my opinion still hasn't changed about a 25-39 age spread.

[kp2171]

Hmmm...

Yeah... I'm still working on the mindreading skills.

You never want the 60 line OP thread starter with no breaks in the writing, but its nice to have relevant details on the front side sometimes, not that it changes the broad question.

Uh... crushed... if you are here to vent that's fine. You asked if age matters and apparently it was a rhetorical question. Some of us thought it was asking for opinions. I'm a guy by the way.

I have a 21 year old step-daughter. Would I be alarmed if she dated a man 15 years her elder? Maybe. Maybe not. Actually, my wife is older than me and had her at a young age, so my daughter by marriage is just 15 years younger than me... so shed be dating a guy my age.

Would that freak me out? Again, completely depends on the guy and the situation. To paint it with a broad brush means you've just made up your mind and that's that. OK. Your prerogative.

Bmi- I seem to be in a mood today so if my take was wrong, ill buy first round. Seemed to me that you were interested in pointing out how others opinions were not valid opinions. Perhaps I was wrong. I'm irish. Male. Its been known to happen.

Uh... so the question now is about intent. I mean what if it was a 35 year old waitress? Would that suddenly be OK? Does the fact she's a waitress in a strip club have anything to do with anything? It was OK for you apparently... would it be better if she fell for a 20 year old? What is suddenly the acceptable thing? You are obviously hurt or frustrated or just confused or maybe just amused... but the OP wasn't about your relationship with her including the details... it was about whether the age diff is an outright problem.

Obviously we still don't know all the details about the relationship, the noise, the history... blah, blah, blah...

Just don't ask a question on a public forum like this if all you want are nods of approval and agreement. I say the answer isn't always yes or no.

[kp2171]

As for lying about age... I have a woman friend who has had several "anniversaries" of her 35th birthday.

Yeah, she might think its strange, she might even be embarrassed a little, thinking that others won't support her. Hmmm... I get a sense that maybe some people wouldn't support her, no matter how good the relationship might or might not be.

[s_cianci]

39 and 25 is still a bit of a gap. Give them another 5 or 10 years and the age difference really won't be an issue.

[Saintas]

In fact that 10 years later will be the real difference s_ciani , when all hormonal love goes down , and the woman will have only 35 (still young) and the man will be then really a grandpa. Only than will be a really gap in this relation .

[Wondergirl]

A grandpa at 49? Surely you jest! You must be very, very young, Saintas. (I used to think people at 29 were old.)

[Saintas]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...uy-141045.html
Take a look at here . I'm not too young and I came from two experiences (from lasts years )
Like these .

[Wondergirl]

Yes, you're young. Forty-nine must seem ancient to you. (I finished grad school about that time... )

[Saintas]

No it doesn't seem too me but for this girl will look like this at one point . Trust me .

[Wondergirl]

Maybe.

Omnia vincit amor.

[Saintas]

Sorry to tell you : Only in the movies , only in the movies .

[Wondergirl]

Ah, not true, not true. I have been blessed.

[Saintas]

Ah, you're the exception which confirm the rule . It happens 1% of cases .

[MissingHim2Much]

I can't believe everyone is so worked up over age differences. Well here is some fuel for your fire. I am 19 years older then my ex and we had a great relationship for 7 years. Which is somewhat longer then most of the ended relationships on this forum. I've never in my life been more compatible with another person and everyone that knew us always said they envy'd us because of how well we got along and how much respect and love we had for each other. So I'm speaking from experience and obviously some of you aren't

BTW I am female if you didn't know

[Saintas]

Sorry to tell you but the key word is EX !

[MissingHim2Much]

Sorry to tell you but the key word is EX !

Yes EX is correct, as is with most everyone on this site. My point is I've read many posts on here and 8 out of 10 of the breakups were same aged couples that had rocky relationships, or some of the ex's left them for someone else. I just know that my ex and I had seemingly fewer problems in our 19 year age span then a lot of you same aged couples. So if age is such a major problem why was my relationship so good for so long?