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wonderfulbubbles · Oct 25, 2007, 12:41 PM

:eek:
So... I have a 8 month old. And according to my caculations I about 8 weeks pregno!:eek:
THIS is not good!! VERY UNPLANNED!! I was taking some medication for my pcos that apprently made me very fertile. UNAWARE!!
And now I am pregnant. My husband and I are no in any way financially prepared for a second child. We can barley handle the first one. He is a HUGE handful.
I am very confused at this time. I wondering if this is going to be unhealthy for me and my family at this time. NEED SOME ADVISE! SUGGESTIONS! SOMETHING!
My husband has suggested but not quite sure I want to do what he suggested. VER CONFUSED:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

kate2 · Oct 25, 2007, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by wonderfulbubbles

:eek:
So.... I have a 8 month old. And according to my caculations I about 8 weeks pregno!:eek:
THIS is not good!!! VERY UNPLANNED!!!!! I was taking some medication for my pcos that apprently made me very fertile. UNAWARE!!!
And now I am pregnant. My husband and I are no in any way financially prepared for a second child. We can barley handle the first one. He is a HUGE handful.
I am very confused at this time. I wondering if this is going to be unhealthy for me and my family at this time. NEED SOME ADVISE!! SUGGESTIONS! SOMETHING!
My husband has suggested but not quite sure I want to do what he suggested. VER CONFUSED:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

Try not to worry so much, its amazing how you can make things work. I have two boys close in age both now under the age of 4, you do have the next 8 months to get ready in everyway except for emotional (as you remember from your first nothing can prepare you for how you will feel) This little person is on it's way and worrying will only make you feel helpless. Do what you can now to prepare, talk to anyone you know with more than one, and remember for what you will go through having them close together in the beginning it will be the hardest but it will be a blessing they are close in age later on and you will get to enjoy those benefits in the future. Keep in mind too that they say that if there is less than 4 years in age you are more likely to have the same sex baby as your first, so if that is the case it will make it even easier. Good luck love
kate2 mother of two

Gernald · Oct 25, 2007, 02:00 PM

Getting financially stable for any child is not easy, it makes you think what about school? College? Food? Clothing?? Your children will be very close in age and Like Kate said if the same sex it will be easier for you. Think of ways you can save money before and after the baby comes. If it's a boy you won't need too many new clothes if you still have your sons old clothing (got to love hand me downs), try not going out to eat very often, if you feel up to it and have a job try to work a few extra hours during the day. Open a bank account just for putting in saved money like extra change from buying gas or money that you would have used for eating out. Try to start clipping coupons, my step mom saves almost a hundred dollars every time she goes shopping because of coupons, and she shops a lot! Try not to buy things that aren't on sale, and get only the neccesities. As far as a crib and other supplies go try looking for a safe lightly used stuff at yard sales or flea markets. There are so many ways to save money that you may actually find that you have more money to spend on other stuff once the baby comes along.
As for a handful, since they'll be so close in age they'll entertain each other even if they're opposite sexes. Perhaps you could find someone that can comeover once the baby is born and watch the kids while you go out and relax a little.
Don't worry so much, these things all work out in the end.

nikki help · Oct 26, 2007, 02:29 PM

I have two children one 5 one 2 neither planned you are warring for no reason you will prove that to yourself when your new arrival comes.. we all do what we have too to bring are kids up and make it as happy and as joyful as we can.. you will see as time goes by your eldest child will grow up an be more mature for his/her age and help you in many ways its great watching them both play an solve things togetherxx good luck :-)