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    Daskgh Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 24, 2007, 10:36 AM
    How Can better the commnication in my marriage
    A friend of my wife did mention to me that my wife complained to her about the fact that we do not have a good commuincation in our marriage . How can I better that? Funny enough an an AFRICAN and she is American so there is a bit of commuincation barries rith there please help me fix that.
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    Oct 24, 2007, 12:48 PM
    Although there may be a language barrier, small gestures can often go miles for improving communication between 2 people. Leave her sweet notes, she will like that and notice your efforts. Make sure to clearly and concisely tell her things that are important and try to discuss things with her so that she knows you understand her side and so that she understands what you are saying. If she asks questions, don't get frustrated, just be patient. Communication may take more time but it is definitely important.

    Often communication problems stem from other issues, and maybe she is just feeling a little neglected and wishes you would talk to her or involve her more. Try to involve her in conversations about mutual interests, and make sure to spend time together. Nonverbal communication is important too. If you want her to know you're thinking about her, small gestures often help. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are together but we are doing something I'm not very involved in, he will squeeze my hand so I know he is leaving me out or forgetting about me. It makes me feel a lot better just to know he is thinking about me and how I feel.

    Any effort by you to improve communication will be appreciated by her, so try different things and see what works for you. Patience and understanding is the key!

    Good luck!
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    Oct 24, 2007, 08:10 PM
    Daskgh,

    Good luck trying to communicate with a female! If you are newly weds, the best I can offer you is to listen to your wife when she is speaking and if you do not understand what she is saying to you, let her finish speaking and then tell her I think I understand, is this what you mean? I mean this seriously. Learning to communicate is critical to your marriage's success.

    If you two can get to the same page, then you are ahead of the game.

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