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beccainsc · Dec 28, 2005, 02:19 PM

I just got in a new relationship and am very happy, my ex wants me back, we had a long distance relationship and he said he is going to mail me a $300 present to try and win me back I want to be friends with him at least and I do still care about him what should I do

Becca:confused:

CaptainForest · Dec 28, 2005, 02:28 PM

Originally Posted by beccainsc

I just got in a new relationship and am very happy, my ex wants me back, we had a long distance relationship and he said he is going to mail me a $300 present to try and win me back i want to be friends with him at least and i do still care about him what should i do

First of all, why did you and the ex break up? Was it because of the long distance relationship?

Second, you are happy now with current boyfriend, why change that?

nymphetamine · Dec 28, 2005, 02:48 PM

Well unless your trying to hook back up with him Id say tell him you already got a man.

Julianne8879 · Dec 29, 2005, 02:51 PM

If you still want to remain friends I would suggest telling him not to send the gift. Explain to him that you are in a good relationship and you want to remain friends with him, only friends. If you may want more in the future after your current relationship is over keep it to yourself. That information could only hurt the situation.

JoeCanada76 · Dec 29, 2005, 03:29 PM

There is no winning back. If money or an expensive gift will change your mind then it is not true love. It is long distance which is another downfall. What you should do. Tell this person thanks but no thanks. You are happy now and it is completely up to you and is your own decision but my opinion is stay away from your ex.

Joe

Chery · Dec 29, 2005, 06:45 PM

Welcome to the forum. My fellow posters here said it all.
No matter what broke you up, it's still long-distance and will never work again, as there will be no trust anymore.
Don't accept the gift, don't put his hopes up if you are a friend because that will only hurt more in the end.
Make a clean break, tell the truth, and you'll be able to sleep better without the guilt.

Think how he would feel about your actions and how he would feel about women in general if you just lead him on.

Wishing you a Happy New Year, and know you'll do the right thing!

PrettyLady · Dec 29, 2005, 11:10 PM

Originally Posted by beccainsc

I just got in a new relationship and am very happy, my ex wants me back, we had a long distance relationship and he said he is going to mail me a $300 present to try and win me back i want to be friends with him at least and i do still care about him what should i do

becca:confused:

I agree with the other comments. Beccain, it seems to me that your ex is interested in getting back with you since you have a new boyfriend. Once he saw that you were with someone else, he realized how much you mean to him. You need to talk to your ex-boyfriend to let him know that you are happy with your new boyfriend. Stick with your current relationship and tell your ex that you don't want to get involve in another long distance relationship with him.

fredg · Dec 30, 2005, 06:50 AM

Hi,
I also agree with the other answers you have received.
A "long distance" relationship isn't really a close relationship. You have a new boyfriend, which proves that. You are probably much closer, and have a better relationship now, with your new boyfriend than you had with your ex.
If he sends you a gift, simply return it.
If he is really in love with you, I don't see how you can be "just friends" with him.
Stay with your new boyfriend, and forget the past. You determine your future. Happy New Year.

beccainsc · Dec 30, 2005, 06:51 PM

Thanks and the reason we broke up is he cheeted on me my new boy friend is just over the state line and is two towns away so about a 30 min drive

bizygurl · Dec 30, 2005, 06:55 PM

I think if your happy with the person you are with now, then you should stay with him. But you have to do what you feel in your heart what's best for you

Chery · Dec 31, 2005, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by bizygurl

I think if your happy with the person you are with now, then you should stay with him. But you have to do what you feel in your heart what's best for you

I agree with bizygurl and know you'll do the right thing. Once a cheater, always a cheater...

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!

beccainsc · Jan 1, 2006, 08:46 AM

Thank you

You have helped me I'm going to stay with my BF that I have now

s_cianci · Jan 15, 2006, 07:22 PM

You say you just got in a new relationship and are very happy. You also state that you relationship with your ex was a long distance one. Why did you and your ex break up? Long distance relationships are always hard work and very rarely successful. You claim to be happy now in your new relationship, which I presume is not a long distance one. I think the handwriting's on the wall. The odds certainly favor staying with your new relationship for now. You can be friends with your ex but I think you stand to have a more successful relationship with your new love interest.

lilfyre · Jan 15, 2006, 07:34 PM

Every one has given you good advice, if you have moved on from this relationship, then stay moved on, be friend and leave it that way, a gift should not be the deciding factor.