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Kayla-angel · Oct 18, 2007, 02:32 AM

Hi every one I would like to start by saying there are so many helpful people on this site and I hope there's a few on here who can help me out. Well my names kayla and I would love some advise on how to and where to find a right guy all the ones I have dated have turned out to be total jerks and has stopped me getting out there and meeting people and have not been with any one for three years. If any one has any ideas I would like to hear them.

Greg Quinn · Oct 18, 2007, 02:44 AM

Hi! How are you? I only hit woman with my left hand as it is the weaker of my godly hands. I never shout too loudly at my woman and only start eating my dinner if she is done cooking it. I ask only that my food be fresh, and she bare as many children as Damion our lord would allow.

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brookeleigh · Oct 18, 2007, 02:44 AM

I would say, wait for him to find you. I always look and get the bad ones too! Wait till one good comes along. :)

Greg Quinn · Oct 18, 2007, 02:50 AM

I think you can find really nice guys almost anywhere. The trick is to dump the AssHol** when you find them to be jerks. My sisters always hooked up with mean guys with tempers and wasted so much of their young lives. Most of the guys I know are so great towards woman, I can't imagine it being that hard to find one.

Kayla-angel · Oct 18, 2007, 03:12 AM

Greg what the f##k is wrong with you who says such things and you wonder why you need a dating service

Clough · Oct 18, 2007, 03:14 AM

Originally Posted by Kayla-angel

hi every one i would like to start off by saying there are so many helpful people on this site and i hope theres a few on here who can help me out. well my names kayla and i would love some advise on how to and where to find a right guy all the ones i have dated have turned out to be total jerks and has stopped me getting out there and meeting people and have not been with any one for three years. if any one has any ideas i would like to hear them.

Hello, Kayla!

The first thing that I want to ask you is, why do you think that you need to find a man, please?

Kayla-angel · Oct 18, 2007, 03:18 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Hello, Kayla!

The first thing that I want to ask you is, why do you think that you need to find a man, please?

Well I don't no mabey I don't need one rite now but its been awhile and I just want to be in a relationship that's good and feel loved I guess

Greg Quinn · Oct 18, 2007, 03:19 AM

OK... Honestly, maybe that is why you are single? You clearly are far too sensitive. It was a JOKE! Lighten up! I answered your stupid question, I'm hitched and do not use a dating service. Go pick a fight with a date and calm down! I'm going to bed.

Clough · Oct 18, 2007, 03:22 AM

Originally Posted by Kayla-angel

well i dont no mabey i dont need one rite now but its been awhile and i just want to be in a relationship thats good and feel loved i guess

Do you feel good about yourself and the things that you do, please?

Kayla-angel · Oct 18, 2007, 03:55 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Do you feel good about yourself and the things that you do, please?

Yeah I am who I am I acept that and no not all the things I do

Clough · Oct 18, 2007, 04:09 AM

Originally Posted by Kayla-angel

yeah i am who i am i acept that and no not all the things i do

How old are you, please? Knowing that will help additional people who will try to help you by answering your post.

KBC · Oct 18, 2007, 05:04 AM

Often we look for someone to be our equal,our alternate,or our opposite.

What are your expectations to finding a suitable mate?

Are you looking in the right direction to begin with?

Internally is the place to start,not 'out there'

Make plans,just don't plan the outcome,let that part happen on its own.

Hope this helps,

Ken

Clough · Oct 18, 2007, 05:14 AM

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Greg Quinn agrees: Nothing... Someone who is joking... I do not use a dating service, please! Y does Clough keep typing "please?"

Because politeness might not be the thing in which you are the most well-versed. I would suggest that you might need some work on you...

Greg Quinn · Oct 18, 2007, 10:52 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

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Because politeness might not be the thing in which you are the most well-versed. I would suggest that you might need some work on you...

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Why all of a sudden are you using please at every opportunity? Please

babigirl1 · Oct 18, 2007, 11:24 PM

God made everyone a soul mate. We all have had bad relationships. I would just go on with my life and you will find him. Just take all your bad relationship and learn from them. That way you can grow as a person. When you stop looking , he will come along.

deist · Oct 19, 2007, 02:21 AM

Originally Posted by babigirl1

God made everyone a soul mate. we all have had bad relationships. I would just go on with my life and you will find him. just take all your bad relationship and learn from them. That way you can grow as a person. When you stop looking , he will come along.

The fact is you might find the right man & you might not. There are plenty of people out there who can't get a date or have never been married to testify to that fact. Don't believe all the crap that the right one will come along sooner or later. The right one might & he might not. The only thing you can do is to keep looking & keep hoping.

Kayla-angel · Oct 22, 2007, 02:24 AM

I have a lot of mental issues when it comes to guys. One realationship I was in affected me really badly and I'm almost to scard to get into another. I was hurt bad and I can't shake that and I still have night mares to this day I just feel asthough I can't trust anymore and if I am with a guy I make sure I don't have feelings or get attached.

erlobenauer · Oct 22, 2007, 03:59 AM

I know its really difficult to move on mentally and emotionally from a bad relationship. So I wish you the best of luck. If you are scared you can't trust anymore - or you won't let yourself get attached - then Don't get into another relationship, because its not fair to the other person as well. Maybe you should go see someone and talk about what happened, do something for yourself to gain yourself esteem and passion back.

As for finding another guy : Sometimes - people settle for less than they deserve because they'd rather have 'less' than have nothing at all. When you are in a relationship with someone and realize they are a jerk - its very depressing because again you think " What the heck did I do to deserve another guy that treats me like this.." Right? Its hard though, I know... from experience.

Take a break. Do things for yourself, experience the world, learn from your mistakes as well as theirs. Surely you can think about all of the things about your ex's and say to yourself that that's NOT how you want the next one to be. Sometimes you can't figure that out soon enough, but really take your time reading into people. I've learned too - that men that don't respect their mothers, do not respect their spouses. Not in all cases, but in a majority of cases. Finding true happiness isn't always about picking the right guy at the right time. There are PLENTY of great men out there, it just takes time to find them. Don't EVER give up if you really want something and never settle for less than you deserve. I'm sorry I couldn't be of much help, but I hope you think about what I said - as I mean it in the nicest way possible. Good luck to you, and Don't GIVE UP PLEASE!

Clough · Oct 22, 2007, 04:14 AM

Brilliant answer above! It would be best to take it to heart!

I tried to spread the love Erica, but could not, because the system wouldn't let me.

Clough

cal823 · Oct 22, 2007, 04:51 AM

Hey, I think greg was making a sarcastic joke, well intentioned, but not very well thought through. Lets all just be understanding and forgiving,
Now, you shouldn't worry so much, there is a single person out there who will make you truly happy and who will be your soulmate, you just got to find them and every jerk, every rejection, every heartbreak, is just narrowing it down, sorting through the massive pile of potential soulmates, till one day, some wonderful day, you will meet the guy/gal of your dreams, you may have already met him, and just don't realise it, he could be one of your friends, and it mite grow, or he mite be sum1 you have not yet met, but will some day, maybe soon, maybe later. As erlo said, don't settle for less than you deserve, and as clough said, you need to feel good about yourself, and confident, because when you hold your head high and look people in the eyes, they take notice, and if you can be confident, self assured, and have a certain amount of optimism and peace, when you enter a room, heads will turn, and people will listen.
There IS a soulmate for you, there WILL be heartbreak, I'm sorry, there will be good times and bad times, but all of it, your entire lifes struggles, you will be able to look back at them oneday, then look into your soulmates eyes, and say "you are worth all i went through, all the suffering, all the heartbreak, all the rejection"
I hope my answer helps, well, you can do it! Be positive! Keep back straight, chin up, be positive, don't live in the past and your regrets, and remember- there are plenty of fish in the sea, so it pays for you to take the time to find the fish that makes the whole sea seem dull and unlovely in comparison.
I hope my answer helps in some small way... good luck!