[Miszulaki]

Ill find out

[marvito]

Well he doesn't sound very nice if he is saying he is the man and belittling you. Relationships should be 50% 50% equal both should have equal rights and responsibility, pay for everything together. If he does feel that way then in my opinion he is not worthy of someone as caring as you sound. If he can't give you the attention you want maybe he isn't worth it, if you truly love someone wouldn't you give them as much attention as they need?

[Miszulaki]

Yes indeed I truly agree with you! But here's the thing, he is saying that he needs to do this to help his family and then us so we can move out and have no financial problems.
50/50 is always what I say! I feel like I'm giving more and losing myself in the relationship! And I tell him this and he goes if you loose me ull loose big! I tell him that he will regret it and he will run after me like all my exs who agreed with me saying they took me for granted and lost the best thing they ever had! Im not bragging but I just want a healthy relationship with a comfort of being love like I wish ide be loved! :)

[statictable]

It's difficult to come up with a clear answer because your cultures are different from mine but hopefully there are universal common sense solutions. Would it make sense for you NOT TO HAVE children before an agreed upon plan has been worked out? Good luck.

[Kiwigal]

The culture thing does play a huge part in this. Is he insistent on kids being brought up to be orthodox? If so, that's one major barrier to a happy relationship if you feel that strongly that you don't want your kids brought up that way.

He says you will lose big if you lose him - is that his ego talking? Does he give little respect to women? You say you feel you are giving more (while he seems to be giving less) and you are losing your 'self'. That's not a good way to be, and I know what it feels like. That's the way things were with my ex-husband. You have to ask yourself what you want from a relationship and how you see your future. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!

Ultimately, ask yourself this - are you happy in your relationship with him? If the answer is no, then it's really not worth pursuing. If the answer is yes and you think the relationship could head towards marriage, then you and he really need to sit down, talk and work out what your future will be like (something you are BOTH happy with) otherwise it just won't work. Go into everything: whether you have a chance to have a career or are expected to stay home with the kids, how they will be brought up, religious practices, how finances will be handled and by whom - absolutely everything you can think of which could be a possible cause of conflict. If you can agree on fundamental elements then your relationship has a much higher chance of succeeding.