[jeffatl]

I am waiting to see if the girl I am dating will actually call me for once. I always call her, and always ask her to do something. It is getting kind of old taking charge on everything, so I want to see if she will actually call me, or plan to go out. It has been about 3 days now and nothing... is this a sign, or should I just be patient?

[Cher13]

How long have you been dating for?

[jeffatl]

About a month now.

[Cher13]

Hmmm my guess would be either something up, like she might be seeing someone else or is just not ready to move forward with you OR she's just playing hard to get to get you thinking about her.

[jeffatl]

Ok, so what do I do?

[Homegirl 50]

I wouldn't do anything. If you're tired of doing all the calling stop doing it. If you don't hear from her, it means she doesn't care that you don't talk to her call. So move on.

[jeffatl]

Sounds like the best to me as well, just let it be. I just hate being played with on any regard

[lmnotok]

Hey guy, its just been 1 month, be patient! If I were your gal, I would not call you :D So if you want to call her, call! Don't waste time thinking, OK?

[Amanda_88]

She also could be shy, and doesn't dare to call so soon. I would wait a week is she doest call you, and you want to call her, do it. Who know, probably she is thinking that you don't like her any more: “he always called me”. So you could also be honest with her: tell her: “call me; I will be waiting.” Or something like that.

[MissingHim2Much]

If you're the one that always calls then maybe she thinks that you'd be put off if she did. She's probably wondering what she did that's keeping you from calling. I mean she's not a mind reader so how does she know that you want her to call for a change.

[jeffatl]

I see of your points here, and all of them are good. I will send her a text tomorrow... just to say hello. Im just not used to controlling the "pace" I normally let the girl take control of that sort of thing, and normally I read it pretty well... I guess I am just a touch thrown off.

[whiteribbon]

If I were you id not call until she makes the effort to call you, if she really thinks anything of you then she will be in touch, even if it's a text message... Hard to do I know but give it a go and see what happens for the next week at least... good luck and let us know what happens!

[jeffatl]

Sent a text to her, and heard back... said she has been busy. I told her if she wants to hang out, give me a call... now the ball is in her court, Im not calling/texting again.

[whiteribbon]

Well done you - be strong and keep it up, don't waste your time on anyone that isn't willing to waste time on you! :)

[lmnotok]

Haha, sounds very good man. Just don't wait desparately for her call. I think you guys will have a good relationship :D