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Madkog · Oct 15, 2007, 06:45 PM

Hi,

I've been going out with my partner for about 1.5 years. I decided last week to finally part from her. The reason I did this is that I felt trapped and controlled in the sense I couldn't do anything without her either commenting on how I did something, or her getting upset about what I did. In the end she broke up with me and apologized the next day, anyway this gave me an angle of escape which I took. I tried to make the breakup moment as empowering for her as I could as she is on her own and has little to no friends in this country.

Anyway, I love her so much but I felt smothered and controlled and I really have no idea how to deal with her anger.

She is a wonderful person when happy but a nightmare when sad/angry. I love her, but I'm not sure if I can live with her.

I'ts been 9 days since we broke up and I want to be with her but I also want my freedom of choice and to be me.

There are some other issues that I was concered about is that I wanted children and she wants to adopt. Now she is saying she wants children and that she was expressing her concern for those kids without families.

She comes from Thailand which seems to be very different in what's expected in relationships.

My questions is that should I try and give this relationship another try due to the fact I want it too or am I asking for more problems even though she has admitted that she was wrong in some circumstances. I admit I was wrong so many times as well.

Is there anyone else here with a mixed culture relationship(western/asian) that could bring me more light on my situation, especially Thai/Asian.

Thanks!!

lmnotok · Oct 15, 2007, 08:49 PM

I was in that same relationship before. Honestly, I was just like your gal, the only difference is I was in a Long distance relationship.

So my solution here is you plssssssss don't get back to her right now. I was like that, I broke up with my boyfriend and had time to sort things out and now became a better person. Don't run after her or else you 100% will lose.

Chin up man, she is the person with insecurities, don't ever think you can help her or this situation without her REALLY knowing that she needs to change.