[MsTasty]

Hello,

I have been involved with a married man for 6 months now.
Before anyone begins judging me I just found out this shocking information.

I met this guy at work, we work at the same company. From the instant I laid eyes on him I felt this great connection and chemistry between us, We have been together everyday since... we are always going out and doing things together, taking long weekends and vacations the whole nine so I never had any reason to suspect anything.

About a week ago I was in charge of updating the profiles of all of the company's associates, Getting correct addresses and phone numbers. Well when I came across his profile it dawned on me that in the entire 6 months that we had been lovers I have never been to his home, he's either at my house or we're at a nice bed and breakfast. Being Nosey I looked through the rest of his profile just for fun and learned that not only was he married he also had 2 children!!

I was UPSET... being with a married man in my book is a HUGE no-no and I was totally ashamed of myself. I knew I had to keep my composure for the confrontation otherwise he would get defensive and I would never get the truth out of him. So I allowed him to pick me up later that night for dinner as usual. While eating I simply looked at him and asked "How do you ever find time to spend with your wife and 2 children when you're always with me?" HIS MOUTH HIT THE FLOOR! By that point I was angry as hell so I jumped up and stormed out of the restaurant, he followed of course... literally begging and crawling on his knees professing his love for me in front of everyone. I asked him how could he keep something like that from me. I deserved to know what I was getting myself in to... long story short... on the way home he confessed to everything. He has been married for 14 years, they have two little girls 9 and 3, he doesn't love her and he hasn't loved her for over ten years, the only reason he's still there is because of the kids and finances blah, blah blah, blah. He says that he had been thinking about his situation the whole drive to my house that night and he had planned on telling me at dinner that's why he was so astonished that I already knew. I told him to kiss my and never talk to me again...

This morning I woke up feeling so sick and fatigued... took a pregnancy test and it's confirmed... I'm pregnant... I haven't told him yet I'm trying to figure out if I even want to tell him or not... my question is do I inform the wife of her husbands misdeeds? If so how should I approach this sensitive subject? I still have their address, I was thinking of sending her a certified letter which includes pictures of us in Jamaica and Vegas ( some of the many trips) and my pregnancy test results ( I also had an emergency dr appt) . What do you guys think?

[Chery]

Gosh, are you in a pickle..

I'm sure that his wife is not totally blind and suspects something due to all those trips he takes.
I guess he can go to bed with someone he does not love anymore, and produce a child who is 3 yrs old. So I guess he can go to bed with anyone else and claim he loves them.

I also assume it is no use telling you that you should not date anyone from the same workplace, huh? It's too late now, but keep it in mind for the future.

What good is it going to do you to send the Mrs proof? Will it ease your anger one bit? Will it solve your current dilemma? I know you want to hurt him, but will it really do you any good?

I certainly would send HIM the results of that pregnancy test and demand to know from him what he plans to do with that information. If you plan to have this baby, he will have responsibilities that he should commit to. Children are not to blame for parents' mistakes.

It's OK to get miffed at what has happened - he lied to you and his family. It comes easy to him or he would not have gotten away with it for so long.

Maybe he is serious about wanting to come clean before you found out, maybe he does want a future with you, but you should keep him at a distance until he has proven to you all of his intentions.

Good luck dear, and keep us posted.






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