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    maddie10 Posts: 25, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 10, 2007, 04:38 PM
    Does hubby fantasize about my mate
    Hi I'm maddie. I've been married for 18 years. And have two teenage sons. I'm 37 years old. I'm convinced my husband fancies my cousin. She is all so my best mate. I've confronted him. But he denies it. He is a completely different person around her. She lives right opposite me and I always catch him spying on her. Or checking her house threw our windows. When other members of my family or friends are round he seems to be more interested in the TV. To make matters worse he always has to make appoint how much he hates her. Am I being paranoid. Or does anyone else think he has a secret crush on her.
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    Oct 10, 2007, 04:43 PM
    Sometimes people will talk about how much they don't like someone to throw you off or cover up their true feelings or to try to talk themselves out of the feeling.
    He might have a secret crush on her. You have to let it go as long as he isn't acting on it because if you nag and accuse it could push him right into her arms.
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    Oct 14, 2007, 12:02 AM
    There doesn't really seem like there's enough info or evidence to be worried about about your husband having a 'crush' on your cousin. That being said, trust your instincts and be vigilant about them... but don't get so carried away that you make something out of nothing.
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    Oct 14, 2007, 12:02 AM
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    Oct 14, 2007, 11:07 PM
    If he likes her , he sure isn't going to tell you. How well do you trust your cousin? If he hasn't done anything to cross the line than you have to trust him. The real question here is. Do you trust him and do you trust her? I would be thinking the same thing that you are if my husband was doing what yours is ? We females all have this ability to pick up on things like this. And yes like it was said to you before , if you accuse him of this, he just might act on it. So talk to your cousin about what you are feeling.

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