[missylando]

Okay so here's the deal... I've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now. Everythings an absolute perfect fit. We are currently in the process of moving in together, he just bought a house and we began moving our items in a few days ago. The thing that I don't understand is that the past month he has not been wanting to have sex. He has said that he doesn't know why he doesn't feel like it, but he just doesn't lately. He says he could be stressed with starting college again, this whole buying a house thing, quitting smoking and drinking and getting ready to move. This could be it, but its really aggrevating me. I lay there in bed frustrated because I'm stressed to, but come on now, sex would help relieve some stress right? Haha. I can't imagine him getting sick of our relationship because nothing else has changed with our daily lives and why would he want me to move in? Doesn't make sense if it was that. Also couldn't be that he's sleeping with another chic unless he's been sneaking out of the house at night because even though we didn't "live together" we were together every night for the past 3 months anyway. I just really don't understand, I guess that's why I'm here, lol. I know that we are past the whole "honeymoon stage" that's for sure. Both of us would prefer to get actual rest at night rather than be entwined with each other all night, but also this past month he's been real nasty about me even slightly touching him when we are going to sleep. Says it wakes him up. Now some of you don't take that as he doesn't want me EVER touching him, during the day and evening its all fine to be touchy and stuff but when it comes time to go to bed its like "stay completely away". Someone help. I can talk to him about absolutely anything, we don't have a problem communicating whatsoever, except about sex, and that's just me, I've never been good at it. I'm getting better than I was, and actually its thanks to him, who's made me open up more than I ever have before, but I just don't want to, or know how to on this yet. Someone help lol. Any ideas what's going on with him or what I should do?

[XenoSapien]

"He says he could be stressed with starting college again, this whole buying a house thing, quitting smoking and drinking and getting ready to move."...

Time, missy, time. Sex is merely a 'cherry-on-top', but is not the cake. The cake is all these things he is doing to make both of your lives better as well as the wonderful relationship you both have. I understand that your desires are high, but try to give him some time and room.

Next time you have your day 'expression of affection', ask him, GENTLY, when sex could happen again. See what his response is. Good luck, and keep being sweet with him; he's juggling a lot.

XenoSapien

[missylando]

If this is the plain and simple reason for him not wanting to have sex that's understandable I guess. Would you guys say that could explain him not wanting me to even touch him once we get into bed at night? This whole "stay completely on your side" is aggrevating too. Like last night he grabbed our little dog and was petting him, so I was reached over and was petting him a little too before going to sleep and my arm was on top of his for a minute and all of a sudden my boyfriend says "okay, now get away, go to sleep". All night before we went to bed he was all about grabbin my and boobs, but once again, we're in bed, so I can't touch him again. :(

[missylando]

Also could the use of Oxycontin's contribute to this problem?

[ConfusedandLost]

It may... he might want to see his doctor about any if there are side effects that he may be experiencing...