[Jornny]

Yeah, hi everyone. I last spoke to my ex 3 days ago, Saturday morning for 30mins. Twas a good, friendly conversation, and she said she'd text me later in the day. I decided to round up some friends for an old school night of Gremlins and BEER! Had a brill time and then I told my mate later that evening, say 1.30am that there was a girl I started showing interest in through Bebo. I've known her a while, worked with her, know her bro etc etc, and I managed (through a girl who knows a guy who knows a girl kind of thing!) to get her no that night. We started talking through the night and eventually it lead to me being invited to her friends house party at 4am! Yes I kissed her goodnight, she's on my mind since then, and it REALLY helped me block out my ex. But we're just friends at the moment. She thinks I'm just going through a rebound thing, which is an understandable view, but I don't feel it is. I feel that since using everybodies advice here, that I've accepted that my previous relationship is over, and that I'm starting to go out and enjoy myself and gain interest in other girls. I know self healing is about staying single and recovery, but I really like this person, and I hope it does develop over time. Thanks everybody, for EVERYTHING. You're like the friends I never had. Best of luck to all us lonely broken hearts. It's not a fun thing to have to cope with. Especially with full time jobs or exams or anything concentration requiring. Thanks again, Jornny.

[star3114]

I am so happy for you. Try not to be over eager to get into a relationship. That is where the rebound phenomenon comes from. A person is so lonely and hurt that they have to prove to themselves that they are still desirable in the eyes of the opposite sex. Then they get into a relationship, convinced that it is the real deal... only to find out after a month or two max, that this in fact was a rebound relationship. I am not advising you not to date. I am advising you to take it slow. Be sure your feelings are the true ones and you are not just high on the lust hormones. True love takes time, lust takes seconds.

[Jornny]

Ok fine, I'm back! Just cause I'm feeling better about myself, doesn't mean I can go and leave all you behind. We're in this together! Anyway, yeah I believe now after a few days that I'm kind of jumping the gun with this new girl. Not that I don't feel anything for her, but at the moment I think I just need a girl-FRIEND to talk to and have a laugh with. And she's the ideal person for that. Over time, who knows, but I really got to take the hard, more sensible road and get over this heartbreak alone. I wouldn't dare dump my feelings onto ANYONE, especially somebody that I'd care about. But it's now been FIVE days without contact from OR to my ex. And tonight our fave TV show is on and usually we'd be reminding each other or watching it together. Yes, it's Prison Break, how romantic.. But back to the point, yeah I'm really happy with how I've been feeling recently. A lot has to do with this girl, a lot more to do with everyone on this site, and a small amount from my lack of ability to be anything but nice, yet I TRY my best to keep up the NC, but I'm doing it, and I'm proud. Talk again soon I hope!