[kaharie96]

I dated a guy over the phone for six mouths... we saw one anther and everything was cool... he stayed intouch after going home and we continued to talk for a little while after he went home... then he up and stops calling me... I was hurt, blah blah... now three years after he's hunting me down wanting to come visit me again... he tells me how much he missed me and he never forgot about me... he wants to come see me again this weekend... should I let hm? Why did he wait so long to contact me? I'm in a messed up situatioin right now and I am trying to leave one dog alone as of right now... do you think it's only about sex with him? Would he drive 10 hrs for sex only? Please help

[LEILA007]

Men are cabable of anything for any reason. If you are ine the midst of one dog give it a min before you start with another. Make him wait as he did u. tell him you have plans and call you next week. If he don't call you have your answer..

[Moomin]

I agree LEILA007 - let him alone a while!
He needs to make more of an effort to get back in your good books!

[kaharie96]

Thanks guys... I played him awhile back... he wanted to come and I made an excuse as to why he couldn't come about a month or two ago... I really wish I knew if he had good intentions... I just don't understand... why now? Why not then when I was really feeling him? I think I should pass again... everytime I think about it, it makes me upset... what do you think?

[Moomin]

I think if it makes you upset every time I would pass!
Save yourself any unwanted upset!

[GlindaofOz]

I think you are right. You have a messy enough situation going on and you do not need anyone else around you right now at least not until you get out of the mess you are in.

You are in a pretty vulnerable spot right now and to let him come back around would be the wrong thing to do for you.

How is that other situation going?

[kaharie96]

Glinda... it's going all right so far... I blocked him from my messager... I haven't called him and a day so far... I've been praying and talking to the lord about the situation... I really want a change in my life... thank you so much for the advice... u guys really opened my eyes...

[GlindaofOz]

Glinda...it's going alright so far...i blocked him from my messager...i havent called him n a day so far...i've been praying and talking to the lord about the situation...i really want a change in my life...thank you so much for the advice...u guys really opened my eyes...

I'm so glad to hear that. Remember we are never given more then we can handle in this life. Just keep asking for strength and you will receive it in spades. I'm very proud of you. I hope you feel good about yourself in taking this first step.

[kaharie96]

I really do feel good... and for the first time in three years I feel stonger, better and wiser!

[Tuscany]

After reading your other post I would have to tell you to concentrate on yourself for awhile. Do things that you like to do outside of a relationship. Go out with friends, hang out, go to the gym. Jumping from one relationship into another (even if it is just sex) is not the answer.