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MrsMac2003 · Sep 12, 2007, 03:56 PM

My husband and I own our home and we took pity on a friend who was homeless. He told us in May that he was in the process of applying for disability in his native Canada and all he had to do was take a quick run up there (we are in SC), sign some papers, see a few doctors and then he could live wherever he wanted and still get the disability payments. So, we told him he could move in. We agreed he would help with the bills and put gas in the car whenever he used it. We also told him not to be using our car to ferry people around in. He was unemployed at the time but as mentioned, we expected him to go back to Canada and take care of business there. He never went back. Now he refuses to go do what needs to be done to get his disability. So my husband helped him get a part time job where my husband is currently employed part time (second job). His attitude from day one has been that this job was beneath him. He used to command a minimum of $80 an hour as a contractor but is not able to perform that job anymore.

He has lived with us for 3 months now. He has given us a grand total of $160 the entire time. That money was only given to us because if we didn't get it our electric would be shut off. We tried to pay the bill, bank refused (separate issue) and the bill has almost doubled with him here adjusting the thermostat to suit HIM. Anyway, he has also borrowed at least $110 in cash... he has put gas in our car but usually turns right around and drives it all back out. He never shows us receipts that he has gotten gas even though we ask for them. He has gotten 6 paychecks now and that $160 is all he has given us. Oh, he did buy groceries two times. Spent about a $100 each time but got nothing that we could eat also. He bought the makings of snacks for the bar he frequents and stuff he eats. :eek: :mad:

On top of all of this he is just plain disrespectful of me because I am a woman. He is truly a chauvinist. He has been spreading outright lies about us to not only neighbors but also to people my husband currently works with and who he may be managing soon. He has become a thief at this job as well as a manipulator trying to get the manager to let him take home leftover hot dogs to feed some kids he knows who have nothing to eat. We have caught him in many lies. :eek: :mad:

We want him OUT of our home. We know better than to expect he will ever pay us the money he owes us even if he does get this huge inheritance he claims is coming any day now. He has told others that when he gets it he is going to just disappear. We want him gone now... not when his alleged inheritance comes in.

He has no written lease... he is not on our lot lease either. He gets some of his mail at our house, some at his last residence, and some other places. Do we really HAVE to give him 30 days notice? If we do that, we may lose our home! We are so far in the hole right now we are not sure we can get back out in time to not lose our home. My instincts are to do what the last person did... set his belongings outside and lock the door! After changing the locks because he used to have a key he now claims is lost.

Can someone please advise us? How can we get him out asap? Obviously this has been a very expensive lesson!

sGt HarDKorE · Sep 12, 2007, 03:59 PM

I think that if you wanted too, you could kick him right out the door. He doesn't own the house, he is a guest and that is it.

rockinmommy · Sep 12, 2007, 05:31 PM

It sounds as if you might be able to get away with simply setting his stuff out and changing the locks, but legally that would constitute an unlawful eviction.

Because you had a verbal agreement with him and he has paid you SOMEthing during his stay, technically he's a month-to-month tenant. In the first post in this forum are links to each state's landlord/tenant laws. That is what you would need to go by to do everything legally. I'd think you could certainly make a strong case for non-payment of rent, so you could begin eviction proceedings. It varies state-to-state, but that entire process usually takes somewhere from 3 weeks - 2 months. Typically, the "tenant" will move out at some point during the process once they realize you are serious. If all else fails, at the very end of the eviction process the sherriff will show up to remove the person. Also, to file for eviction will typically cost somewhere around $60 - $120, just to get the ball rolling. There are more costs along the way, the more steps you need to take.

If you know he's been thrown out by previous hosts/"landlords" and took no legal action against them, chances are good that you could get away with it, too.

At the very least, can't you get your car keys back from him?? Even if you have to sneak them back in the middle of the night I'd do it!

Good luck! Who needs enemies when you have "friends" like him, huh?

MrsMac2003 · Sep 20, 2007, 06:35 AM

UPDATE

We just simply told him we could no longer afford to have him living with us. He left a few days later! Of course, he tried to drag it out but he realized we were serious when he came home one day to find we had washed all his dirty clothes, dried and folded them... got all of his bags, etc. and put them all on the couch. He says he will still get us some money but se are not holding our breath considering he was going around telling people that we were taking all of his money!

Thanks for the advice!

rockinmommy · Sep 20, 2007, 08:58 AM

Whew! Glad you got rid of him so easily! I say let Canada have him back...

MrsMac2003 · Oct 12, 2007, 08:14 AM

Originally Posted by rockinmommy

Whew! Glad you got rid of him so easily! I say let Canada have him back.............

LOL His family in Canada won't take him and very few people around here will either. Found out he told everyone WE packed his bags and put them out on the porch... he was the one who did that! Thankfully most folks who know him know him well enough now to know that most of what he says can't be believed. So nice having our home back... now to get our bills back under control!