[karicia0714]

I have a husband who is demanding towards his step son (my son), when he does not put an example himself. He does not help me around the house either but he expect my son to do it. My husband drinks every weekend he has time for that. He only spends time with my son when I get mad and remind him. He has been part of his life since he was 4 he is now 11 so it has been 6 years and he still don't get it. My son has ADHD and his been taking medication since he was 4 I don't know what to do anymore. I have to put up with both of them fighting all the time. My son is afraid of the dark always has been since he was a baby my husband makes him turn of the bathroom light off and tells him you have a night light that should be enough but my son says it is not bright enough I am scared. Well, my husband does not really care he says he has to grow up. I just don't know why he is like that. My son tells me that when he turns 18 he will be moving to my parents home this really makes me sad, I feel like I have failed him in some way. My husband is selfish also, I am not working and he has all the money is his wallet when I need something I have to ask him for money. I also pay over $1000 in bills with my sons disability check ( rent, car payment, insurance, warranty) My husband only pays about $200 a month the cell phone bill and the cable. December 2006 I got another financial burden my husbands dad who is schizophrenic, and a lazy man who does not help around the house and just watches TV all day. Oh and check this out I still take him to his doctors appointments which I don't even know why I bother because he don't even take care of himself, he does not take his medications and he is diabetic and does not follow his diet or checks his sugars. I think I am going to go crazy that is like having another kid. I don't know how long I can take this I am ready to walk out. I have tried talking to my husband about everything that I see is wrong but he does not get it after 6 years. What should I do should I leave him?? \\

[Homegirl 50]

From what I have read, it sounds like your husband is taking advantage of you and will continue to do it as long as you are there. Only you know when or if you've had enough.
When he started mistreating my child, that would have been enough for me. But the fact that he is also using your money and you have to ask for some of your money, is enough to make you go Duh!

[miss_icanhelp]

Your father-in-law-should first be confined to a mental health institution because there are professionals there who could take good care of him. Ask your husband to take his father there. Though he has all the money in his pocket, everything that is his is also yours. You should ask him for a monthly budget for the house and all your needs such as groceries and payment for the utilities such as electricity, etc. About your marriage, may I ask why you married him? What was he like before you got married? What does he usually do that make you love him and when he does those things, you felt you are loved.

[LearningAsIGo]

You must follow your heart.

Divorce won't be easy, but personally I would take divorce over watching my husband treat my child that way. I'm sorry to sound cruel, but you sound like his doormat, not his wife.

[Homegirl 50]

This man is abusive in his treatment of you and your son. Personally I see no good reason to remain in this relationship.

[jcd987]

I would never let anyone treat my child like that. I can only imagine how stuck you must feel... have you ever thought about temporarily moving in with your parents? Maybe you can do that while you get on your feet and get a job to start becoming more independent. It won't be easy, but do you want to live the rest of your life like that?

[cece23]

Yes you should leave him. I can't see why you would want to stay. You are not getting anything out of this relationship except a lot of heartache, misery and unnecessary burden.
For your child's sake, if not for your own, leave him and build yourselves a much better and happier life and future.

[beingtakenbyloverboy]

I'm also in a marriage, that includes a step child even thou she is up and gone. And while she was home things went on that I over looked not on purpose but just didn't quit under stand by being young, at the time. Now all my children have gone I no longer care for him. Remember that will always be your child but that may not always be your husband.

[LearningAsIGo]

beingtakenbyloverboy disagrees: This message is not positive. I'm sure feels bad enough, she don't need to here talk like this, I'm sure she feels bad enough.

I'm entitled to my opinion and I didn't see you disagree with anyone else who posted something "negative"
You must remember that this is a public board and not everything here will be uplifting.
My concern is for her and her son. She is being stepped on and deserves to put herself on higher ground.

Please see this thread:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

[LEILA007]

Living with an adhd child is hard enough . He needs to go it won't get better and your son just may resent you for that . If your paying most bills yourself and he is not catering to your son and your needs what do you need him for.. and the next time you need money just take it he lives there he needs to be a man and own up. Rate this answer

[talaniman]

Why are you giving him that much control over your life, when he has proven not to be good at it?? Changes need to be made.