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    ImMissCurious Posts: 29, Reputation: 3
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    Sep 8, 2007, 04:56 AM
    I want to stop being bored in the bedroom
    My friend has asked me to ask this question for her.

    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. When we first got together he was still living with his wife but not sleeping in the same room. We used to work together and after work we always went back to mine before he went home to sleep. Then a couple of months later we moved in to a 1 bed room flat. We used to make love 2-3 times a day then it slowly started to get to 2-3 times a week. I still love him the same as when we first met, I'm crazy about him, but now the sex is 2-3 times a month and when it happens it is so boring for me and I think for him to. I have tried all sorts of positions. Is there any advise someone could give me to help me in the bedroom. I want him to feel satisified in the bedroom. I am 21 and he is 29 but I no that doesn't make a difference.
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    Sep 8, 2007, 07:46 PM
    I'm a little confused? Is the question that there is no passion or that there is a problem with the actual 'function." It may be a need where a doctor has to be consulted.
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    Sep 8, 2007, 07:50 PM
    First the number of time is more an issue of scheduling and desires.

    Bored? Games, costumes, character play??
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    Sep 10, 2007, 02:58 AM
    There isn't a problem with niether of us, it's just I think it feels like a chore now, I don't want it to feel like that. At first when we used to make love 2-3 times a day I wanted it as much as him, but now I don't want to have sex even when we do have it. How do I get back in the mood? He hasn't changed from when we first got together.
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    Sep 10, 2007, 06:31 AM
    Maybe you guys should start doing new stuff like going to new places, hanging around with new people, watching new type of movies...

    Just an idea, it might make you see new things in each other!
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    Sep 10, 2007, 06:38 AM
    Does he still have his wife to please as well as you??
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    Sep 10, 2007, 07:16 AM
    No he doesn't have to please anyone else apart from me!!
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    Sep 10, 2007, 07:22 AM
    Hello Miss:

    My friend asked me to answer this question for her. She said forplay. I don't know what it means.

    excon
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    Sep 10, 2007, 08:04 AM
    You are lucky you can ask all these people -- and get answers -- before internet??

    Tips for Improving Your Love Life - Good Housekeeping

    http://climatique.stores.yahoo.net/

    Love and Romance, Love Poetry, Love Relationships, Polls, Quizzes

    Better Sex - Adult Sex Education - Adult Sex Toys

    Arrosal Is What were talking about --- fun and games --- enjoying the pleasures you give each other

    improve your sex life - Google Search
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    Sep 10, 2007, 09:19 AM
    Well, having read what I've read... I think maybe you guys need to spice it up a little. Sexy skirts or toys rp games, anything that you can agree on. Use your imagination and that may improve things. I have been in this scenario myself and it is not as easy as it seems to improve a sex life, but this early on it can also be the sign of something more significant that is effecting your sex life. Personally I have seen many causes to this exact problem, stress, depression, internal trust issues, self esteem... Etc. For the most part it seems like it's mostly you who has found it to be a problem. Quote: "it's just i think it feels like a chore now, i don't want it to feel like that. At first when we used to make love 2-3 times a day i wanted it as much as him, but now i don't want to have sex even when we do have it. how do i get back in the mood? He hasn't changed from when we first got together." It also says in other text that you "Think he may feel the same as you" The first step is communication and then you will be better set to find the route of the problem and it would be a little easier to pin point the real causing issues and eliminate some of the guess work. Remember that a lot of people get bored with sex in their relationships and it's normal and too common. A lot of people can get over it with the simple use of their imaginations during intercourse. Good luck
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