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jbcgirl8709 · Sep 7, 2007, 09:17 PM

I think I'm falling in love with a married man. Ive liked him since I was 16, I'm 20 now. He is now 29. And just got married. I thought I had lost all my feelings for him, but 2 weeks ago he came on to me at a wal mart store. I told him to leave me alone and walked out. Then this Wednesday I found a boquet of flowers on the hood of my car after I got out of class. Idk what to do. I know its wrong to fall for him. Im trying really hard not to. What do you think I should do?

Wondergirl · Sep 7, 2007, 09:20 PM

Run. Run as fast as you can and don't look back.

nauticalstar420 · Sep 7, 2007, 09:22 PM

If he comes on to you again, do exactly what you did last time, tell him to leave you alone. Good job for doing that!

Think for a moment if you were in his wife's shoes. Would you want this done to you? I can almost definitely say not. It is not fair to her, nor is it fair to you that he is doing this, making you have feelings for him. If you pursue this, you will be the "other woman", and that is definitely not a good image. You don't want to be labeled that way, nobody does.

Do yourself, and his poor wife a favor, and cut out contact with him, especially if you think that you might pursue this. He is not a very good person, and if he would do this to his wife, he would more than likely do it to you too. Be fair to his poor wife, and be good to yourself and your feelings, and tell this guy to buzz off.

wasup2001 · Sep 21, 2007, 08:04 PM

I agree with the advices given so far. Don't fall for him, cut off contact because you don't want to be in my situation. I have been involved with a married man, for years and it's been a roller coaster ride, when it's good, it's really good but when it's bad, it hurts a lot. I had my chance when I could have ended it and gone separate ways in the very beginning but no I heeded him, he was all for continuing the relationship but now that the wife has found out, things are hard and he backs off from meeting-up from time to time. So you don't want to be in this situation that I am in, it is hard now to move on, you can, without much regret.

shygrneyzs · Sep 21, 2007, 08:11 PM

What a freaking jerk! To come and hit on you and newly married. His problems do not have to involve you. What if you were his new wife and found out he was hitting on someone? Tell him NO and that if he contacts you again you will file harassment charges against him and also ask for a restraining order. You can throw in that you will contact his wife. Just do not cut him one inch of slack. What he is proposing is called adultery. I know many do not take that seriously anymore but it still is cheating.

Just think of it like this - if he is willing to cheat on his wife, what is there to protect you from him cheating on you? What are the risks to your own health, since you do not know who all he has been with? Your own self esteem would take a hit if you got hooked up with him. Where could you go in public with this dirt bag? How would you introduce him to your friends and family? "I would like to meet Tom, my married lover" You would be preventing yourself from finding someone who can love you as you deserved. Who can love you openly and honestly.

I think you know what to do. You just need confirmation you are doing the right thing. You are doing the right thing. Just say NO and walk away. Close that door. Tell him to go back to his wife. If he comes to your work again, report him to your supervisor.

Good luck.