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monkey-man · Sep 5, 2007, 05:31 PM

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3-4 months now. The things is a about 1 month ago me, her, my male friend, and her female friend decided to have a foursome. She kind of pressured me into it, I wasn't to keen on the idea but I went along with it anyway. We started doing our stuff and got a bitt drunk and I just didn't like touching her friend or my friend touching her so I got up and left. She started being rude to me and they carried on without me. The next morning I found out that she gave both the male and female friend head while I wasn't in the room, I got pretty angry because all I did with the other chick was finger her before I left. She obviously knew that when I stormed out I was not okay with the idea. Anyway her excuse to all this was that she was drunk. We talked about it and I told her I didn't like the idea of her kissing other chicks and all, I told her that I see it as "if it isnt me, its cheating". She said she understood and said she wouldn't do anythng of the sought again... to this day I still get cut up about it, just thinking about what happened that night.
Anyway just the other weekend we were on our way up to the clubs (her, me, and about 4 other friends) when I started feeling really sick because I drank too much, so I decided to go back to the apartment, she carried on without me... next morning I find out that she had kissed this girl, twice.. she knows how I feel about it... wat do I do?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 5, 2007, 05:37 PM

What do you mean what do you do? You leave the girl alone. That's what you do. You don't trust her, she does things you don't like, what's there to think about.

monkey-man · Sep 5, 2007, 05:40 PM

She says she was drunk, and she was... is that an excuse? My brain says leave her, my heart says staty with her...

Trouble321 · Sep 5, 2007, 06:22 PM

Your girlfriend is bisexual and I think she inititated the four some to get you more involved with her sexual preferences. You openly told her you didn't like it and kissing someone else is considered cheating to you. She obviously thinks otherwise.

I constantly have this argument with friends myself. I lean more towards your girlfriends point of view. I don't consider it cheaing if you are bi but I have never found anyone to agree with me on that. Maybe us bisexual chicks just think differently.

I'd say if you can't accept her lifestyle or the fact that she will want to be intimate with chicks even if you are a participant or not. Then just let her go so she can find someone who is accepting of her and her choices.

monkey-man · Sep 5, 2007, 06:59 PM

I've asked her if she is bi and she says she is definitely not... I think she just doesn't care, mabye if I go out this weekend and kiss some girls I can smooth things over,, I really don't give a what happens now

Trouble321 · Sep 5, 2007, 07:02 PM

Well if she is not respecting what you say... and she is not.
Then you really shouldn't care about her.
Respect and trust go a long way in a relationship.
Without either... you are doomed.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 5, 2007, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by monkey-man

she says she was drunk, and she was...is that an excuse? my brain says leave her, my heart says stay with her....

That is no excuse. She did it because she wanted to. And do you really want someone who ia willing to have a foursome? She has no respect for a relationship or you. Where is yourself respect? This girl loves to get drunk and do kinky stuff and does not care what you think about it.
There should not even be a question here. Leave her trampy behind and be thankful you've only wasted a few months on her.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 5, 2007, 08:14 PM

Whether she is bi sexual is irrelevant. If she is your girl, she should not be kissing and giving anybody else head. She ought to just stay free then she can mess with anybody she wants. But unless you have an open relationship, if she is messing around with someone else, male or female, she's cheating.
If you are a straight male, you don't need a bi sexual , especially if she thinks that being with another girl is not cheating. But she messed with the guy too. IMO, she a slut. Be glad you're rid of her.

Dennis777 · Sep 5, 2007, 08:21 PM

Hello.

Her kissing other Girls is no different then if she was kissing other Men, if the kisses where sexual. Being sexual is being sexual no matter what sex you are.

I never like to say walk away but in this case I think you need to do just that. Even if she changes to keep you she will always dislike the fact she can't do what she wants to do.

Dennis777

monkey-man · Sep 5, 2007, 08:40 PM

I agree with you all... im going to have a break from her this weekend and tell her next week I don't want to be with her...

Homegirl 50 · Sep 6, 2007, 04:59 AM

Good idea. I wish you the best.

talaniman · Sep 6, 2007, 06:07 AM

If you weren't into this freaky stuff you never should have gone along with it.

talaniman · Sep 7, 2007, 03:08 AM

monkey-man disagrees: cos sex is great

She thought so too!

Homegirl 50 · Sep 7, 2007, 05:52 AM

Well if you'll have any kind of sex just cause it's great, you're not much better than she is. It's like the pot calling the kettle black. Don't get mad at her for doing what you did as well. The only difference is you claim you didn't like it.
You both might want to chill with the drinking if it makes you do stupid stuff cause it feels good.