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macamaca92 · Nov 26, 2005, 10:04 AM

Yo I haven't made out with my girlfriend yet and we've been going out for a little over two weeks and she said she wanted to make out with me and I want to make out with her but she said its not supposed to be planned its just supposed to happen and we're going to the movies today so I got some questions
She said its not supposed to be planned so how do I know when to kiss her?
Where do I put my hands?
And any other help would be nice pleeeeaaaaaaseeeee help me :confused: :confused:

Thanks :D :D in advanced

macamaca92 · Nov 26, 2005, 10:14 AM

Please someone help me out here I'm kind of new at this

lilfyre · Nov 26, 2005, 10:30 AM

She is right it should just happen, and a two weeks you should still be getting to know one another, did you try a kiss good night, or a kiss hello, or just a kiss, I am assuming you are young and things at this age are awkward, take your time and go slow, have fun things will happen when the time is right. As for where to put your hands, try in her hand. This is always a good starting point. As I tell my daughter this is not MTV it is your life.

Sorry for that last sentence I had to get a parental comment in there, :D

nymphetamine · Nov 26, 2005, 11:57 AM

Just don't put your hand on her butt and don't eat her face. Try not to grope too much. And don't choke her with your tongue. Pay attention to the sensitive little corners of her lips.

greatinbed · Dec 1, 2005, 12:57 PM

The moment with come so be patient until then. And when the moment does come be very gentle and sweet... don't go at her like a hungry maniac, you want her to want to kiss you again. Also don't tongue her right away, concentrate on her lips, nibble them and feel them next to yours... I agree with crankiebabie, you don't want to grope her the first time you kiss her, gentle strokes, take her face in your hands maybe, hold her hand, hell, even keeping your hands to yourself is fine... But most of all enjoy it and have fun. It's supposed to be pleasurable for both of you, make it an experience you'll both enjoy and remember. Bye.

DJ 'H' · Dec 2, 2005, 02:57 AM

The trick is not to think. Kissing someone happens naturally. I was so scared when I was a teen - I would think about how, when, where and nothing ever happened. The moment I stopped thinking about it and worrying about it; I kissed this guy I had fancied the pants off for agesa school disco and wow!

There is no wrong way to kiss a girl - just relax and let it happen naturally. A tip on where to put you hands - I am not sure about the other girls on this sight - but I love it when Pete (my boyfriend) gently puts his hands on either side of my face and then moves them and runs his fingers through my hair. It makes me feel really special!

fredg · Dec 2, 2005, 04:11 AM

Hi,
The more you think about it, and how to do it, and what might happen, the more anxious and nervous you will get about the whole thing.
If you are sitting in the movies, put your around her, over her shoulders, and just look at her. Kiss her.
Stop thinking about it so much, and just do it.
Best of luck to you and her. It will happen.

talaniman · Dec 2, 2005, 07:33 PM

Be a perfect gentle man and show a hole bunch of patients and just show the lady a fun time.Trust me dude an arm around her shoulder or elbow for that manly support and no pressure will go a long way to impressing her.women love manly secure fun men.After that you read her vibes.Go slow (Its a good thing I'm married this advice to the younger guys is sort of going to my head,but I do have some good memories from back in the :rolleyes: ;) :rolleyes: ;) :cool: :rolleyes: day)

s_cianci · Dec 5, 2005, 12:37 PM

Actually, it is "planned", except that you're the one who does the "planning." You decide when and where you're going to make your move. Start with some light-hearted kidding (I won't use the word "flirting" since it's so overused and tends to have a negative connotation) and playful teasing. Then progress to what you've done already (hand holding, etc.) Then, when you feel the urge, make your move. It will appear spontaneous to her and she won't feel like you and she "planned" it.

someguy222 · Dec 6, 2005, 12:24 PM

For the first time is it better to use your tongue or not?

nymphetamine · Dec 6, 2005, 12:26 PM

Um not on a first kiss. The tongue thing is moving a little fast into territory you might not be ready for.

PrettyLady · Dec 6, 2005, 07:13 PM

If it's your first time kissing a girl, try not to rush in for the kiss. Remember to be respectful and ask the girl if you can kiss her. When she says it's okay to kiss her. Put your hand on her waist, tilt your head to the right position, slightly open your mouth and press gently against her lips. Kissing should be natural and fun.

s_cianci · Dec 6, 2005, 07:21 PM

Originally Posted by someguy222

for the first time is it better to use ur tongue or not?

That's what "makin' out" usually consists of, my friend.

someguy222 · Dec 6, 2005, 07:38 PM

I'm talking the first time

DJ 'H' · Dec 7, 2005, 02:51 AM

No - don't use a tongue on your first time - you don't want to be too full on. It needs to be special & enjoyable. Just gently let you lips meet hers and let things roll - leve your tongue out of it until you get to know her better.

PrettyLady · Dec 7, 2005, 04:37 PM

DJ, I disagree with your comment, but I will not use the reputation system to do it.

I know you must be in love with your boyfriend and share a romantic relationship. However, the boy that came here for advice is very young and has only been dating this girl for (2 weeks). Since it's going to be his first time kissing the girl he's dating, I don't think it's a good idea to be forceful and rush in for a kiss right away. Because the girl might not be in the mood until an attraction builds between the two of them. It's perfectly okay for a guy to ask a girl if he can kiss her. If a girl is into a guy, they will respond positively and think it's a compliment because the guy care to ask and you want to kiss them. Personally, I find it sweet when a guy ask me for a kiss on the date. It says that he respects you enough not to just take what he wants.

s_cianci · Dec 7, 2005, 06:47 PM

Originally Posted by someguy222

im talkin the first time

Yep. The first time and every other time. If you're not using the tongue, then you're not "makin' out", at least not according to my understanding of the phrase "makin' out." Perhaps its connotation is different these days? You younger posters may have to set me straight on this one.

DJ 'H' · Dec 8, 2005, 02:29 AM

Originally Posted by PrettynPetite1

DJ, I disagree with your comment, but I will not use the reputation system to do it.

I know you must be in love with your boyfriend and share a romantic relationship. However, the boy that came here for advice is very young and has only been dating this girl for (2 weeks). Since it's going to be his first time kissing the girl he's dating, I don't think it's a good idea to be forceful and rush in for a kiss right away. Because the girl might not be in the mood until an attraction builds between the two of them. It's perfectly okay for a guy to ask a girl if he can kiss her. If a girl is into a guy, they will respond positively and think it's a compliment because the guy care to ask and you want to kiss them. Personally, I find it sweet when a guy ask me for a kiss on the date. It says that he respects you enough not to just take what he wants.

I am sorry - I did not mean to come into conflict with you - and I apologise for using the rep system to disagree. I guess I am just a bit of a romantic - plus it happened that very way when I had my first kiss back at secondry school and the whole thing was lovely - but I guess times have changed since then.

someguy222 · Dec 9, 2005, 02:49 PM

Which post was the one u disagreed with?

Chery · Dec 11, 2005, 04:18 PM

Originally Posted by macamaca92

yo i havent made out with my girlfriend yet and we've been going out for a little over two weeks and she said she wanted to make out wiht me and i want to make out with her but she said its not supposed to be planned its just supposed to happen and we're goin to the movies today so i got some questions
she said its not supposed to be planned so how do i know when to kiss her?
where do i put my hands?
and any other help would be nice pleeeeaaaaaaseeeee help me :confused: :confused:

thanks :D :D in advanced

Yo back to you. What the heck is it with you guys? How come you can't tell us how old you are so that we can give advice appropriate for your age-group? If you are between 15 and 18, then my advice is to wait more than two lousy weeks to 'make out'. You need to take time to get to know each other, like what music, books, shows, food, etc. she likes, and not how she would like to be 'grappled' How about a little respect, fun, laughs, and conversations that make her smile? If you treat her right, and the moment comes to where she feels like kissing you, you can try for a little more, but make sure that you only go as far as she wants. And most important, always carry a condom with you for that 'spontaneous' moment, or you'll be sorry you were in such a hurry. Maybe she just might be the romantic type and would like you to show her your appreciation of her with a flower or a CD of her favorite songs. Making out can be fun, but only if the feeling is right for both of you at the time, so cool it and wait for her signal. Now is not the time to act like a caveman. Good luck, relax and have some clean fun, and most of all be safe!

Sometimes waiting for the right moment can be really worth it.
Happy Holidays!