[beetraveling]

My husband has left my 2 year old son and I. Not only left the household, but left all of his responsibility to me. Bills, raising of the baby, all household duties etc. We have been having problems financially but he has checked out now completely. I think he is spending time with someone else on top of it all. This is so embarrassing.
When the baby was born I began to see a change in him and started to find out things I could not believe. I thnk he is ill from post war issues in his life prior to me. 7 years of this is enough.

Do I need to file for abandonment? I would like to know how I can file for alimony and child support if he is currently unemployed. Do I have to wait until he works again?

He has 2 other children he is in the reers with by 80,000. He has managed to stay afloat.

Can he go to jail?

[s_cianci]

He could go to jail for failure to pay child support. But if he is unemployed, then as they say, you can't get blood from a stone. And certainly not if he's incarcerated to boot. Being in jail does not legally end one's obligation to pay child support but certainly makes it impractical. Getting a judgement against him in and of itself is easy enough. But if he already owes $80,000 for other children, good luck with getting so much as a dime from him, even if he gets another job. It's really a no-win situation for both of you. He owes so much already and is getting farther and farther behind so you'll get either a mere pittance from him if anything and he may end up incarcerated in which case you'll get nothing from him. And he's so far behind that every penny he gets his hands on is going to go for back child support.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

Sending you a Great Big Hug. Im sorry but if he wants to run away there isn't much you can do. Just make sure you don't let him back in when he gives you the "i was wrong story". Not to say he couldn't change but lets be real, he has other kids he isn't taking care of so this is a long term problem for him. If he wants help there are ways for him to get it.

I know its hard but from the way it sounds your going to be better off in the long run anyway with him out of your life. Give your child all the Love and attention you can and things will work out just fine. Hold your head up and show your child and the world how strong you can be. It takes time but the hurt will go away and you will find Mr. Right, just don't jump to fast and take Mr. Wrong because your lonely or want a father for your child. Make sure he is the real Mr. Right and that's done by giving the relationship time.

Dennis777