[failuresnotflattering]

Its not that I don't love my parents its just they expect so much of me!!
They don't care about what I want!!
They want me to be like my brother and sister.:rolleyes:
I no they want what's best for me but I don't want to be them!!
I'm more into acting and making music!!
Not finding out how much fat there is in a bottle of coke!!
Or seeing if people need glasses!!
It's just not me!!
And my parents are always working and I hardley ever see and when I do all we do is fight!!
They can't wait till I'm out of the house so they can work!!
They even sent me 2 boardin school to get me out of there way!!
I just wan't to tell them how I feel but there like talking to walls or else there to busy!!
Please can u help me??


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[ghostandufolover]

Just say to them, if you love me very much you won't treat me like crap. Ad walk away into your room.plus how old are you? Hope this can help.
Rosie

[failuresnotflattering]

16 and I don't think they even do love me have the time!!

[failuresnotflattering]

It's all right but I'd really like if someone did no what 2 do!!
Thanks

[Capuchin]

Can you make them sit down to talk? Show that you're mature and that your feelings count.

[failuresnotflattering]

I'll try but there usually 2 busy!!
But thanks

[Capuchin]

No parent should ever be too busy to talk to one of their children. EVER.

And stop using so many exclamation marks ;)

[kp2171]

I have a daughter who is now 21.

When she was 14-17 we had some rough years between us. She said that we never paid attention to her, we didn't listen to her, or that we expected too much out of her.

Sounds a little like what you are going through. Understand everything I say here Isn't about judging you or them, or taking sides. I'm going to give you my perspective.

When we gave her space or we were busy, she told us we were too busy to care. It IS true that, as an adult, you can get stretched thin on time. It takes a lot of work to make a home, pay the bills, buy the groceries, etc... and you usually end up structuring your life around the lives of your kids. NOW... like I said... that Isn't a criticism. There's nothing to be sorry about. Its just the reality. There were times when my wife and I barely got to spend a moment together. Dates? Laughable.

So I know they need to make time for you... and it sucks when the time you have is spent fighting. They most likely are no happier about the conflict than you are.

Sometimes "you dont listen to me" came when we did listen, we just didn't agree. She thought if we heard, really heard what she said, that wed obviously come to the same conclusions. It just doesn't work like that always.

Our daughter decided, in her last sememer of HS and on her way to college, that she wasn't done acting, and maybe thatd be her major instead of pre-law.

Now... by this time... nearing 18, I think things had gotten better between us. 16 was rough, but better than 15, and on and on... and our only request was that she also pursue a second major or advanced degree concerning acting so that she could have other options for a job if acting falls through. After all, there's going to be thousands of dollars in school loans to pay. You need a plan.

All I can tell you is this... try to hang in there. Chances are they are not as idiotic as you think they are, and chances are they care more about you and want you to be happy more than you think they do. You are just both in different places right now.

Understand that hearing you and agreeing with you aren't the same thing. And that in a short time... and it REALLY is a short time... you will have more freedoms and more opportunities to make your own way.

Sometimes I think we drift away from our parents a little so that when we come back closer together we understand what we have. Its just this place right now, when there's noise and frustration, that its tough to believe that.

So hang in there. Like I said, they are more on your side than you know... it just doesn't feel like it right now.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

It's a shame that your going through this but to be honest many teens are going through what you are in one way or another so your not alone. It's a hard age, you're an adult but don't want to take the responsibility of being an adult. Its not your fault because you haven't lived that part of your life yet to understand what an adult is, you only know what you see and hear.

If your parents are provisional people I'm assuming one is an eye doctor and one is working in health care. Make an appointment to see them as a customer would. That will surly open their eye to how much they ignore you. Be mature about it no yelling or causing trouble. Sit them down even if it is one at a time and talk to them about how you feel. Be open and honest. As parents they do Love you but might not understand you. Help them help you.

Dennis777

[x0x_gothicgal_x0x]

Yep that's right we all go through this I'm going through it with my dad he wants me to be a politic I no exactaly what your saying so try 2 talk to them or do you have a family member that you like & trust tell them how you feel and ask them to talk to your parents

[failuresnotflattering]

Sorry its been so long scence I have wrote.
I got in a fight with my dad and he took my laptop off me!

Okay thanks very much kp2171 I really get were your coming from.
I do no I tend to say "You never listen to me" when my parents disaggre but they never do listen to me.
I think leting your daughter do two courses in College was a great idea.
But my dad dosen't think so.

Also thanks to u Denis777 and goticgal.
Denis I love your idea but my brother and sister are the opitican and docter.
My mum is a teacher and my dad is a politician so I can't make an a appiontment to see them.
But I 'll try at home.
Ya I guess a lot of teens go through it but not that many in Ireland.
There's really no one I trust but my friends and they can't really do much.
I'd really lik more peoples thoughts to if possible.
Thanks

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