I have a daughter who is now 21.
When she was 14-17 we had some rough years between us. She said that we never paid attention to her, we didn't listen to her, or that we expected too much out of her.
Sounds a little like what you are going through. Understand everything I say here Isn't about judging you or them, or taking sides. I'm going to give you my perspective.
When we gave her space or we were busy, she told us we were too busy to care. It IS true that, as an adult, you can get stretched thin on time. It takes a lot of work to make a home, pay the bills, buy the groceries, etc... and you usually end up structuring your life around the lives of your kids. NOW... like I said... that Isn't a criticism. There's nothing to be sorry about. Its just the reality. There were times when my wife and I barely got to spend a moment together. Dates? Laughable.
So I know they need to make time for you... and it sucks when the time you have is spent fighting. They most likely are no happier about the conflict than you are.
Sometimes "you dont listen to me" came when we did listen, we just didn't agree. She thought if we heard, really heard what she said, that wed obviously come to the same conclusions. It just doesn't work like that always.
Our daughter decided, in her last sememer of HS and on her way to college, that she wasn't done acting, and maybe thatd be her major instead of pre-law.
Now... by this time... nearing 18, I think things had gotten better between us. 16 was rough, but better than 15, and on and on... and our only request was that she also pursue a second major or advanced degree concerning acting so that she could have other options for a job if acting falls through. After all, there's going to be thousands of dollars in school loans to pay. You need a plan.
All I can tell you is this... try to hang in there. Chances are they are not as idiotic as you think they are, and chances are they care more about you and want you to be happy more than you think they do. You are just both in different places right now.
Understand that hearing you and agreeing with you aren't the same thing. And that in a short time... and it REALLY is a short time... you will have more freedoms and more opportunities to make your own way.
Sometimes I think we drift away from our parents a little so that when we come back closer together we understand what we have. Its just this place right now, when there's noise and frustration, that its tough to believe that.
So hang in there. Like I said, they are more on your side than you know... it just doesn't feel like it right now.
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