[kingdktgrv]

Hello my name is Mobey and I need guidance on a very personal problem,
my girl friend of six months has decided, upon realizing that she has spent all lot of time with me and has kind of blown off her friends, that we need to take a break. She came out with this at a very random time and I'm scared. She says she doesn't want someone else or another relationship, but she just needs to look at our relationship and 'grasp' her emotions.

What should I do?? She said she'd call in a few days but I want to know how she's doing.. . Should I call or give her space?




PS. Can't flowers or something solve this :confused:

[MayMsredrose]

Well... I believe in something... whatever happen, happens for the best, she asked for this break for one of the following reasons:
A) She really means what she is saying maybe she was spending all her time with you and she did not pay enough attention to her family, friends... etc. and she need to reorganize her daily routine. YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT AND GIVE HER A CHANCE, BECAUSE SOMETIMES BREAK FOR A WHILE CAN DO WONDERS.

B) She wants to break up with you & she does not know as yet if she shall go for it or not or maybe she does not has the courage to say it... IN THIS CASE, YOU ARE THE WINNER BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT TO END UP IN LOVE FROM ONE PARTY ONLY OR THAT SHE CHEAT ON YOU. YOU CAN MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

C) She is maybe upset with you for doing/saying something, or she does not feel secured in this relationship. You did not mention how old are both of you?

FINALLY, YOU KNOW YOURSELF & HERSELF BETTER THAN ANYONE...

SO SIT ALONE RECALL IF YOU HAD SAID/DONE ANYTHING THAT MADE HER UPSET... IF NOT THEN IT'S WHETEHR OPTION A OR B... IN ALL CASES I DO SUGGEST THAT YOU SEND HER FLOWERS (HER FAVORITE IF YOU DO NOT KNOW IT THEN REDROSES) WITH CUTE SHORT NOTE SAYING THAT YOU RESPECT HER DECISION & THAT BREAK MADE YOU REALIZE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER... AND YOU ARE WAITING FOR HER TO COME BACK...

This note will make her state whether she want to continue this relationship by saying that she loves you or something... or you will give her the courage to tell you straight forward that she want to break up.

Good Luck... If you need anything am there for you...

Ms. Redrose

[kingdktgrv]

By the way Im 18 and she is 17 and we are both beginning our Senior year next week

[GlindaofOz]

If she wants space give her space. Leave her be until she contacts you. If you start contacting her or sending flowers or gifts or whatever all that says to her is "He is not respectful of my feelings or my needs" this thought will cause her to start thinking things like "maybe someone else out there will respect what I want or need".

It sounds as if she has every intention of coming back. When she does come back you too need to give each other space in the relationship to have a life outside of the relationship. When a relationship is non stop togetherness its not healthy or good for either person. Both of you should have time for friends and activities outside of each other.

[talaniman]

Give her what she asked for and disappear from her life, no flowers, calls, texts.

[kingdktgrv]

Here's the thing though.. . I don't want her out of my life.

[GlindaofOz]

Heres the thing though. . . i dont want her out of my life.

But you still need to give her the space and not chase after her. As I said in my post that it sounds as if she has every intention of coming back. If you chase after her you will pretty much insure her never coming back.

[talaniman]

Here's the thing though.. . I don't want her out of my life.

Didn't mean to imply forever.

She said she'd call in a few days but I want to know how she's doing.

You can't give her a few days?? Let her call you when she is ready.

[kingdktgrv]

So now I have come to find out that she wants to get back with me, but not be as serious as we were. I actually have mutual feelins about that subject so its no biggie.
The other term was that we weren't to be exclusive any longer. This is do not agree on.

How can I get her to change her mind about this without sounding wimpy and desprate.


P.S. She says that she still really cares about me a lot.

[GlindaofOz]

You can't get her to change. You can't make someone feel what they don't and you can't someone do what they don't want to. You need to accept this and move on.

[talaniman]

You have been moved to the friendzone so she can be free to be with whomever she wants. I doubt you can change her mind with flowers, gifts, or begging, and you will have to accept the relationship you had, is over. Let go, and move on, because she certainly will.