What do I say?

Lenovo · Aug 19, 2007, 08:17 AM

Ok, my girlfrined and I have been going out for quite a while, close to a year. She used to have a paper route, but stopped the paper route because she got a job elsewhere, working nights mostly. However, when she quit the route, she told the route coordinator, she could still sub for anyone who calls I sick or what ever, and I don't have a problem with that, except for this one guys route. This guys route she is CONSTANTLY subbing for him whenever he goes out of town or anything, its got to the point, where he asks her if she wants the route first, and she never turns it down.

The problem I have with this route (not the guy) is his route is all over town, its not together like the other routes, and yet my girlfriend not only always volunteers for it, but she said she wants me to help her with the route. I have tried talking to her, and tell her to quit subbing for him, but she won't quit subbing, and every time I try talking to her about quitting the route, it gets her mad, and we start arguing, then I cave in, and help her out anyway.

She has to sub for this guy again Sept. 3-6. And again, she wants me to help her out with the route other wise she'll "have to get up extra early". I already told her I wasn't subbing for him again, but the thing is, if I have her do the route herself, I feel like a total a**. I feel because she's my girlfriend, I have an obligation to help her out with the route, even though I don't get anything out of it, and SHE is the one who volunteered, and I deliver 75% of the papers.

I guess my question is, should I stick with my answer, and not help her deliver the papers, or should I cave in again, and help her?

s_cianci · Aug 19, 2007, 08:24 AM

Well, she's the one who made to commitment to sub on this particular route. You can certainly help her if it's convenient for you to do so. But if it's not, you have no obligation whatsoever to do so. If it turns out that it's too much for her to handle alone then she needs tor realize that fact and discontinue subbing on this route.

talaniman · Aug 19, 2007, 03:29 PM

I really don't see the big deal helping out your g/f. Do you have more important things to do? If so she is on her own.

girl111 · Aug 20, 2007, 02:51 PM

Is it really worth fighting over handing out a few papers, I don't think so, just help her out its not like it's a big deal, why fight over something as stupid as this... If your going to break up Don't let it be because you don't want to help her out.

Lenovo · Aug 21, 2007, 04:07 PM

Originally Posted by girl111

... If your going to break up Dont let it be because you dont want to help her out.

Woah, wait a minute, who said anything about breaking up? :confused: I was just looking for some outside input on whether I should actually help her out or just stick with my final answer as not helping her with the route. The way I am starting to look at it, is she is the one who volunteered to do the route, so let her do it on her own, and she will then see how stressful the route can be, and how hard it is, and HOPEFULLY she won't sub at least for THAT route any more... but no one said anything about us breaking up over it. I couldn't do that to her!

Homegirl 50 · Aug 21, 2007, 04:27 PM

If you don't want to help her, don't, but this is her job, her decision.

talaniman · Aug 22, 2007, 05:29 AM

I think she already knows how hard the route is. The issue is whether your going to help her, or not. Forget trying to teach her a lesson, what good would that do?? I can tell you this though, if you don't help her, she will resent you for it. That may turn this into a dealbreaker.